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Abating Anger. These five tips for decreasing anger… could make your life easier.

Abating Anger. Today’s post is dedicated to a client who came to a session recently. Telling me, “I’m angry all the time.”

Here come five tips to help you to abate anger. Never expect to eliminate it altogether, since anger is like one of the basic food groups. 😉

Okay, anger doesn’t have to be a food. Rather, anger is one of the basic human emotions. Top of the list, along with… Actually, can you guess the other three?

  • Happy
  • Sad
  • Scared
  • Angry

Abating Anger Means Decreasing Anger

Since anger is one of the four essential human emotions, phew! Much as we might prefer to only feel happy, anger will happen. Just as you might admire your hands. (Really, they’re lovely.) But feel thrilled about the appearance of your upper arms.

Sadly or not, you get the full set. Therefore…

Abating Anger Tip #1. More Realistic Expectations

While you may not adore anger. Nor feel glee at rage or fury. Even dislike persistent grumbling.

Hey, good for you. Seems like you’re a self-actualizing person. Consequently, you can appreciate this: Kindness to yourself begins with self-acceptance. No matter what, anger happens.

Like if your upper arms are getting flabby. Maybe start doing some push-ups.

Since hating on your body won’t improve your shape.

Similarly, hating on your everyday emotions won’t improve them. Quite the opposite!

Actually, what happens if your reaction to anger is one of these?

  • Sad
  • Scared
  • Or Angry

Oops, could become a vicious cycle. One that you can avoid, starting now. Simply by granting yourself a bit more self-acceptance.

Abating Anger? Self-Acceptance Can Help A LOT

Actually, accepting your anger could move you forward with personal growth. So don’t push it down. Notice it, just enough.

Of course, just because we feel anger doesn’t mean we must express it.

So drink some water and move on.

Abating Anger Tip #2. Understand How

Summertime Anger Is a Thing

Really, it’s a thing. Do you live in a part of the world where temps are rising? Happy July 1, then.

In addition to more swimming and other fun in the sun, expect short fuses. Just about everyone is more anger prone when the climate turns hotter than usual.

Ayurvedic medicine equates heat and anger with internal heat, pitta.

More on dealing with that personally in our next tip.

Our Tip #2 concerns those short-fused folks around you. Actually, like the first-time commenter at the blog today. Due to misunderstanding an article, he sent me a comment twice. Calling me a liar!

Just click onto that article to see how I responded to his Comment 104. Only now do I realize, I was putting into practice Tip #3:

Understand that summertime anger is a thing. So don’t take it seriously. Or personally. If possible.

So Here’s One Way to Cool Things Down

Find something good in everyone you talk to. Something to like.

Look, you don’t have to worship that person, or agree about politics, etc.

And certainly I don’t recommend inserting compliments into the conversation, like “What clean teeth you have!”

But the very act of seeing and finding goodness in others is one of the best habits you can cultivate.

It costs you nothing. And need not blind you to other people’s actions or power plays.

What will happen if you insist on bringing that ray of sunshine into your life?

Yours to find out!

Abating Anger Tip #3. Avoid Aggravating… Pitta

Back at Ayurveda, did you know? You can make some simple dietary changes to calm down pitta. During the summer, that can really help.

Plus you might feel better physically.

Notably, the previous link takes you to an article by Dr. Vasant Lad. Aiming for summertime cool in your mind-body system? Then go to the pitta column. Note what to avoid versus what can help to decrease pitta.

Even if you don’t have a lot of pitta in your constitution, it’s summertime!

Abating Anger Tip #4. Avoid Trump News on TV and the Radio

Particularly during the summertime. But really, for as long as America goes through “Trump season.”

Learn more from these blog posts:

Alternatively, you can stay informed politically by reading newspapers of record. Like the New York Times and The Washington Post. Whether you read online or snuggle up to a hard copy edition, you can stay informed as much as you need to.

Abating Anger Tip #5. Take Appropriate Action

And not just political action. Suppose that somebody at work drives you crazy. Or the parenting unit is making way too many demands on you.

Don’t just fume silently. Figure out specifically what just happened. In objective reality, who said what? And who did what?

Change what you can and accept what you can’t change.

In Conclusion. I Hope These Tips Help a Lot

It’s sweet to realize that using these tips can do more than decrease anger. Personal growth can be your reward as well.

And yet there’s one more possibility regarding anger.

Clearly, sometimes a person has STUFF stuck in his or her aura. Angrifying-type STUFF. What if, after all these tips, your anger fuse is short, crazy-short? Consider a session of RES Energy HEALING with me. Or with one of the experts I’ve trained.

Because STUFF can drive us towards anger that otherwise wouldn’t be warranted.

In RES “STUFF” means energetic debris at the subconscious level, limiting us emotionally and spiritually. Yet STUFF can always, always, always be healed.

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  1. 1
    D. says:

    Just learned that today (in 1804) was the day Aaron Burr shot Alexander Hamilton in a duel.

    My thought on reading that was, oh course, the blasted duel happened in the heat of mid-July – such a thing would have been unthinkable in the chill of December.

  2. 2

    D., that’s wild! I laughed out loud.

    Thanks for reminding us “Hamilton” fans and history buffs.

  3. 3
    AJ says:

    What a relevant topic for lots of people right now. Lots of people have been angry lately, including myself.

  4. 4
    AJ says:

    When I experience anger, I just go with it. I find that there is no need to analyze why I’m angry. It’s way more useful to use it as a reminder to stand up for myself.

    I find that if I’m angry and the thought of confronting someone over my anger scares me or makes me a little sick—that’s usually when I get the best results from speaking up.

  5. 5
    AJ says:

    Of course, I’m very tactful and I handle anger very well.

    If I can’t control it, I let it go. If I can, I do something about it right away.

    There is nothing worse for your productivity to be fuming over someone else.

  6. 6
    AJ says:

    This is getting me thinking.

    I find that if I’m sharing why I’m angry with other people, that’s where it’s gone too far and I know I need to take appropriate action.

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    Valerie says:

    Rose I notice about myself exactly what you said.

    When I get angry and I accept that anger, I have more overall self acceptance. Not only that, but it passes more quickly and I can move on.

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    Lindsey says:

    Thank you for sharing this helpful post. It helps me with actually helps me understand anger better, allow for it, and how to deal with it in objective reality to handle conflict better and use my power more.

    Good to know the differences and the agreements between the two (how they can work well together and be constructive rather than deconstructive). I’m learning.

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    Lindsey says:

    For instance, my anger for what is politically and socially going on in the US right now can be used to be more proactive in politics (voting and town hall meetings) to speak up and not allow injustice and misinformation to continue to spread.

    It has its place and its strength! 😀

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    Kylie says:

    I’m glad to read this timely post. I think some people are surprised that, living in enlightenment, I still get angry and irritable.

    But I definitely do! I’m a pitta type, and in the summer I do get more easily aggravated.

  11. 11
    Kylie says:

    AJ, along the lines of what you’ve said, when I notice that I’ve thought the word “annoying” multiple times in a single day, I need to take action!

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    Kylie says:

    And it is also true that it does no good to pretend you are not angry.

    At work, I have coworkers who determinedly pretend that they aren’t aggravated, in the name of being positive. They aren’t fooling anyone!

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