Empath Empowerment Answers to our recent quiz: Let me help you to gain a more advanced and empowering understanding. Protect yourself by gaining some truly counter-culture discernment.
Here are the ways we’ll consider what a tip for empaths actually IS. (Besides words of advice that might seem to help somehow, in some mysterious way. 😉 )
- Consciousness Skills. Does the tip help an empath to position consciousness, and thus become stronger and more resourceful as a person?
- Social Skills. Does the tip help an empath by giving advice about behavior.
- Energy Ideas. These are notions from the New Age Years.
- Learn more about all this at the original Empaths Clarity Quiz.
Empath Empowerment Answers #1. Avoiding Negativity
If empaths are around peace and love, their bodies assimilate these and flourish. Crowds or negativity, though, often feel assaultive, exhausting.
Energy Ideas, folks. That’s all this tip offers you. Reassuring theories — although perhaps empty theories — about how energy works.
What’s especially tricky here, Blog-Buddies? Ever since the Shift into The Age of Awakening, everyone has become energy sensitive. This can make ridiculous energy theories seem plausible, and oh-so-deep!
However, speaking as an empath coach, and also an aura reader with solid skills of energetic literacy… this “Avoiding Negativity” idea is simply nonsense. Energetically, as in other respects, we empaths aren’t sponges. We’re human beings.
One of the ideas we discussed in the recent (first ever) workshop on RES Sensitivity Skills was sensitivity hypochondria. This Quiz Question is a great example of how a tip for empaths can make us overly aware of energies, even to the point of way-too-much.
Empath Empowerment Answers #2. Distance Yourself
When possible, distance yourself by at least twenty feet from the suspected source.
See if you feel relief. Don’t err on the side of not wanting to offend anyone.
At the gathering try not to sit next to the identified energy vampire.
Physical closeness increases empathy.
How wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong is this set of ideas? (Note that, once again, this advice is mainly a set of energy ideas, mixed in with social skills.)
I’m fascinated by the terminology about distancing oneself from “the suspected source.” Source of what? Evidently, the totally bogus idea of “energy vampire.”
Psychic vampire ideas, energy vampire ideas, are being offered as valuable energy ideas, but they’re clearly not supported by aura reading research.
Distancing yourself 20 feet or more or less — this part counts as a social skill, right? Why bother? Physically moving away from suspected sources does nothing to stop unskilled empath merges.
These really do happen to empaths. Which is why any empath coach has (in my opinion) to supply precise information about unskilled empath merges.
- What they are.
- Why they happen. (Hint, absolutely nothing to do with alleged vampire people.)
- And, most important, how to stop doing them.
The system of Empath Empowerment sure includes practical help for protecting yourself energetically. By addressing the real cause of problems, something the empath unwittingly does. Not blaming “vampires.”
And I’m pleased to announce, you can receive this help, complete with illustrations, thanks to a new book for empaths that I’ll be publishing early in August. (More about that later. 🙂 )
Oh yes, that final energy idea about physical closeness increasing empathy. Geesh, what how is that supposed to work? Physically close as if kissing the person?
Empath’s Clarity Quiz #3. Use Your Breath THIS Way
If you suspect you are picking up someone else’s energies, concentrate on your breath for a few minutes.
This is centering and connects you to your power.
In my opinion as an empath coach, this is no consciousness skill. Rather it’s one more social skill, a physical technique involving a forehead scrunched up in concentration and maybe nostrils flared extra wide.
Granted, many sacred and powerful techniques involve breath. However, “concentrate on your breath” isn’t really a well-articulated technique, is it? Plus apparently you’re doing it with your eyes open, while in the room with another person.
Throwing in notions about “centering” and “power”? That’s like filling up a technique box with a plastic spoon, adding a note that this is a valuable and beautiful utensil for dining, and then gift-wrapping the entire package with wishy-hopey words.
Unfortunately, as a social skill, what would be the result? We empaths are advised, in effect, to withdraw from other people — even while in the room with them — and then pay attention to our own personal breathing. Rather than noticing what the other people say or do, nor the environment.
In what world would this ever make the empath more powerful? Planet Earth? I don’t think so.
Empath Empowerment Answers #4. Don’t Use Your Breath THAT Way
In contrast, holding your breath keeps negativity lodged in your body.
Speaking of dubious energy ideas, wow! Maybe my perspective has been warped by teaching RES Energy HEALING skills that work effectively. But I don’t think that theorizing about “negativity” or “bad energy” is a terribly sophisticated approach. Do you?
In this case, is holding breath always supposed to keep negativity lodged in your body? Many of us hold our breaths when we read an email. Does that make email toxic to our personal energies?
Or does this tip for empaths really cause us to worry. And, specifically, this advice — if followed — bends us ever closer towards sensitivity hypochondria.
Empath Empowerment Answers #5. How Easy It Is to Heal Through Your Breath
(At least, according to the person who recommends this “survival tip.”)
To purify fear and pain, exhale stress and inhale calm.
Hello, I can tell you about a bunch of RES Energy HEALING Skills. Here’s a short list of the most popular ones, these days.
None of these will insult your intelligence, my fellow empaths.
By contrast, what’s advocated here in empath’s tip #5? It’s simply an energy idea, nothing remotely close to the consciousness skills that empaths need for true empowerment.
Empath Empowerment Answers #6. Visualize Wellness
Picture unwholesome emotions as a gray fog lifting from your body, and wellness as a clear light entering it.
Well, finally. Here’s a consciousness skill offered to help empaths. And it’s easy and simple to do, right?
Despite the appeal, here’s the problem. Visualization techniques like these cause more trouble than they’re worth. Sadly, sigh! They also don’t work very well, other than supplying busywork.
Blog-Buddies, what you’ve been spending time, dutifully perfecting your visualization skills. Please, please, read this pair of articles:
Empath Empowerment Answers #7. Act Fast. Meditate.
If you counter emotional or physical distress while at an event, act fast and meditate for a few minutes.
You can do this by taking refuge in the bathroom or an empty room. If it’s public, close the stall.
Oboy, when you’re being advised to take refuge in the bathroom… might something be wrong? 😉
Honestly, does it make sense that someone who’s emotionally upset or in physical pain… really needs to close eyes and exit human reality? Granted, a consciousness skill is on offer here. But this doesn’t seem very relevant to me, not as a way to help empaths engage in life more effectively.
Empath Empowerment Answers #8. Protect Yourself from Stressful People
Control how much time you spend listening to stressful people, and learn to say “no.”
Such a sad social skill, purported to help empaths!
Hands over ears, shaking head no? What makes another person “stressful” anyway. Might sensitivity hypochondria be a bigger problem than your friendly neighbor Joe or your unfriendly neighbor Gladys?
Since when did some empath coaches self-identify as so very weak that they can’t handle simple conversations with other human beings? When you consider that the author of the tips in this quiz is a psychiatrist, all of this advice seem even scarier?
Empath Empowerment Answers #9. Extra Protection Through Visualization.
A practical form of protection many people use, including health care practitioners with difficult patients, involves visualizing an envelope of white light around your entire body.
Eek, TMI about health care practitioners!
Seriously, this is a consciousness skill? Technically, yes. Just not a helpful one, except for the busywork aspect.
Like what I’ve written in Answer #6, I sure wouldn’t recommend this particular skill that uses consciousness. It’s like recommending that somebody who needs transport… should go out and buy a banged-up little red wagon.
Except here’s the problem. An adult could tell the difference between a reliable automobile and a funky little wagon. But when it comes to consciousness, most empaths are helpless as consumers of the advice offered us. Until we get good skills for reading auras. (BTW, you can start setting that powerful consumer skill in motion by means of this free resource.)
Empath Empowerment Answers#10. Handling the Extremely Toxic People
Or with extremely toxic people, visualize a fierce black jaguar patrolling and protecting your energy field to keep out intruders.
What, not choose to visualize a stuffed animal, fuzzy but loyal?
Once again, we’re concluding this quiz with another consciousness skill. An ineffectual skill indeed.
Empaths, you can do better.
Thanks for your persistence in our latest educational exercise. Because inquiring minds need to know, what really helps empaths versus what merely can keep us very, very busy. (And frightened.)