Pothead Retirement. Today I’ll share what I learned from cutting a cord of attachment between my client Joe and his mother, Gladys, whose retirement dream was…
Hmmm, have you guessed?
Gladys’ retirement dream was this: Getting stoned on weed as often as possible.
Such a plan for a “fulfilling retirement”! Only the reality has turned out quite differently. Neither personal growth, nor spiritual awakening.
Pothead Retirement Hasn’t Brought Freedom
Quite the opposite. Even Gladys seems to recognize that her stoner’s dream has turned into a nightmare. Except that, after two years of smoking grass, Gladys blames everything and everybody… except for her best friend, weed.
- Gladys’s mind seems to be deteriorating.
- Her moods go up and down, even more than before.
- When watching TV, she routinely screams and rants.
- And it isn’t much fun for people in the room with her, either.
Sound familiar? With marijuana legalized in so many places, people get the message that weed is good for them. Hey, alcohol is legal, too. Although how many lives has alcohol ruined? (For a while, at least.) Or consider this article, prominently displayed in today’s Washington Post.
Today’s article was written in honor of all you good people who have been suffering, wondering, about people you know with substance addictions: “Is it my fault somehow?” And “Could I have prevented this?” And maybe even “Is there any sacrifice I could make now to redeem the suffering of this good person?”
Graciously, Joe has given me permission to share this educational experience. It’s his gift — and mine — to any of you who have suffered from feeling responsible because people you care about… now care more about getting high than you, or any other human relationship.
Pothead Retirement May Bring a High
But for spiritual evolution, marijuana’s a slow poison. Regular smokers of weed pay a cumulative price for every single high.
Beware, you sweet Blog-Buddies. Someone else’s mistake does not make you responsible.
From my perspective as an Enlightenment Coach, I’ll add this:
The pothead is going through an experiment here at Earth School. By the time of a Life Review, it may become clear that addiction is a failed experiment.
Nonetheless a person like Gladys learns from this. And she has a long history as a soul, including innumerable future incarnations — should she even desire them.
So, if I might give you some advice about personal remorse over somebody else’s choice…
Stop it. Each human being has a sacred life. You’re not responsible for other adults.
What if it seems to you that they’re making a big mistake? Give them a warning early on. One offer to help or one caution. That’s it. Then allow those folks to live their own lives, and adjust your relationship accordingly. Because that is your right.
Pothead Retirement Cord of Attachment
Soon I’ll go into details about what was in Joe’s cord of attachment to his mother, Gladys.
Before then, here’s some background info.
- You can learn about cutting cords of attachment from this how-to book.
- And here’s background on this RES specialty.
- From the perspective of personal sessions of RES Energy HEALING, cutting cords of attachment is one of many choices I might make to help you most in a session. Scroll down to the crimson box here to learn more about this particular specialty.
Pothead Retirement Cord of Attachment. Now Cut for Keeps.
The incident stuck in this two-pager cord of attachment occurred during a visit. Probably a visit over the phone.
GLADYS: She’s trying to hold herself together.
- GLADYS: Her voice sounds spaced out.
- GLADYS: Emotionally she sounds miserable.
- GLADYS: And also full of rage.
- GLADYS: She blames everyone and everything but herself for how she’s struggling in retirement.
- JOE: I feel so bad for her.
- JOE: I feel so unhappy for her.
- JOE: Process-oriented cord item — Empath gifts switch ON, causing an unskilled empath merge.
- JOE: Feeling guilty that she’s so unhappy.
- JOE: I should to more to help her.
- JOE: “It’s not her fault that pot has ruined her mind.”
- JOE: “She didn’t know this would happen. So she didn’t know any better.”
- JOE: “I should make up for how life has cheated her.”
- JOE: I should take on my mother’s pain, as somebody raised to love Jesus. I ought to be able to do this much, at least.
- JOE: Especially because he’s a good man.
Quite something to think about, isn’t it?
Some of you Blog-Buddies are familiar with Logical Consequences: Basically the whole point of cutting any cord of attachment. Logical Consequences mean results that a client like Joe can reasonably expect because his icky cord of attachment to Gladys is now gone for good.
Can you spot any ideas in these Cord Items that simply aren’t true? How might it impact Joe, having these go through him every single day? And then how might it help him, having the interior brainwashing stop?
In general, can any of you think of a benefit, or Logical Consequence, that Joe can anticipate, now that this particular set of Cord Items is gone forever?