Decisions Made. Decisions Regretted. Today, together, we can solve a certain kind of decision making problem. Or, at least, start solving it.
Because this week I’ve had a couple of reminders. Some people are fine with making decisions. They don’t agonize so much on the decision-making end.
But hoo-boy, do they ever agonize over decisions after making them. I hope that today’s post can help.
Decisions Made. Decisions Regretted. Sound Like You?
Paying the Price for Success: Have you seen our most recent post? There we’ve been enjoying our usual lively exchange. But I was really brought up short by this comment from somebody at the blog:
There are some things I have mostly enjoyed paying the price for (learning Spanish).
And others where I have felt it was half and half or too much.
I wonder, how wise is it to look back over our choices and then stop there? Not reviewing the past to learn from our experiences. Instead to sink into a puddle of regret, remorse, and even self-pity.
- Oh, the price I paid was too much! I had to work so hard for what I got.
- Maybe I did learn from the experience. Maybe I got some of what I wanted. But I didn’t get everything that I wanted. For free! Without trying. And instantly. That’s tragic.
- Oh, poor me!
Sure enough, I’ve exaggerated what our Blog-Buddy was saying. However, I’ve known some RES clients who kind-of did that kind of complaining I parodied in the previous bullets. Living as if stuck in a time warp at age 14!
So let’s do some thinking today about self-pity over the choices we’ve made. Maybe we’ll even achieve some un-sticking!
Decisions Made. Decisions Regretted. And Decisions Replayed. Why?
An alcoholic, a pothead, and Eeyore walked into a bar.
Is that the start of a joke? Not really. More like I’m describing some RES clients I’ve helped with their personal growth. And they didn’t walk into some bar. Actually they met up with me through their mobile phones.
Regardless, this cast of characters has included some recovering alcoholics, some former potheads, and also clients with loads of STUFF that caused problems with making decisions. (In RES, “STUFF” means stored energy of various kinds at the astral level of a person’s aura. Over the decades, I’ve identified dozens of distinctive kinds of STUFF. And every one of them can be healed.)
What did the “alcoholic” and “pothead” and “Eeyore” have in common? When NOT in session with me, sitting around, complaining and wallowing. Telling tales they made up for themselves — stories about “when everything started to go wrong.”
Folks, what would make for a better conversation? Learning the skill of making decisions. Often that’s a skill you can learn on your own, with the help of some friends or some books. Because ultimately decision-making is simply a life skill that people can learn.
What if you’re feeling too stuck to learn on your own? Might I recommend a session or more of RES Energy HEALING? I’ve helped others to learn how to make decisions. Why not you? Really, decision making — and also decision acceptance — are totally possible for you.
Decisions Made. Decisions Regretted? Please Stop Wasting Your Time
From my perspective as an Enlightenment Coach, what have I learned about helping folks to accept the decisions they’ve made and then move on?
Much of our spiritual growth involves moving past illusions.
As for the reality of life on earth for human beings, here are the basics:
- It doesn’t just “happen” that we incarnate here at Earth School. We agree to do it. We want to do it!
- By the time we become adults, our spiritual evolution can accelerate.
- We make little choices and also bigger decisions. Self-authority!
- And then we can use our free will to follow through in order to get the best results from every choice made.
- What will we always receive as a consequence of making decisions? Learning. Potential learning, anyway.
- If we choose, we can learn from success. We can even learn from disappointments.
- Either way, next we have a choice. Will we move forward with greater wisdom? Or will we sulk?
Sulky Living Vs. Wise Decisiveness
What do you think is the correct answer to each of the three following questions?
Hint: it sure helps to accept reality. And that includes understanding that our past decisions become part of reality. What we’ve done in the past becomes non-negotiable. Over is over!
Feel free to comment away with your answers to these questions, Blog-Buddies. And maybe you can generate some funny new ones of your own. Do tell!
Meanwhile, here come our three questions to complete this article:
- I know I broke up with my boyfriend. But can I still call him up to borrow his comfy blue sweater?
- Yeah, I gave away my pet cat. But can’t I ask the new owner to lend Fluffy back to me every weekend? (At least, every weekend when I’m in the mood.)
- When I accepted this job, I didn’t know every detail about what it would be like. Now I hate this decision. And I’m so angry. Would it help if I purchased a magic wand and then made all the people here DISAPPEAR!!!!!???!!!!!!