Lying Lovers. How can you protect yourself from somebody who seems to good to be true… and is?
This article aims to help you benefit from my experience. But don’t worry. My experience is not that of a victim to lying lovers. Instead, I’ve been a helper to help clients live less victim-ey. Over the years I’ve done thousands of RES sessions to help folks get over their love troubles. Some of those recent sessions inspired today’s article.
Lying Lovers. Protection #1. Avoid Victim Tales
Have you ever encountered those “so-helpful” stories told by victims like Joe? How he has suffered grievously, victimized by a lying lover. So he hacks up a hideous wad of misery and insists on offering samples to everyone. As though it’s some kind of treasure.
Through his song or his podcast, his blog or his group on Facebook — blah-blah-blah. As if his testimony is guaranteed to help you, like foolproof wisdom-training.
And if you’ve gained lasting benefit from such stories, congratulations.
For many folks, though, I suspect that these stories don’t bring significant transformation. Changing nothing significantly, aura level. Pretty much like going to the movies. (Even if it feels like a powerful film changed your life… more likely it just changed your mood.)
Maybe sometimes the appeal is how Love Trouble Tales can provide drama, which all of us crave sometimes — especially when stuck in our spiritual growth. Plus there’s the promise implied by Joe: If you learn about his mistake, you’ll receive a kind of vaccination. Like you’ll now be able to spot all lying lovers.
Oh, I think not. What do I recommend as a better choice?
Run from that False Promise, Blog-Buddies
Instead, I’d recommend some RES Energy HEALING sessions. Can moving out your personal STUFF and receiving soul-awakening PUT IN do something practical, like help you improve relationships?
Yes. It can really work. You see, there’s no one-size-fits-all method for preventing heartache. But in your own personal sessions, I might be able to help you in ways that are relevant to your own situation. Your situation being unique, both humanly and energetically.
Really Effective Skills might succeed at helping to free you from the allure of a lying lover. And even free you up in ways that go beyond that particular failed relationship.
Might you be repeating some old familiar patterns? I just might be able to help you to stop. Then help you develop some productive new habits.
Incidentally, what if you find a resource outside RES, something that works better for you? Do that, of course!
The point is your authentic emotional growth and spiritual awakening. You’re the best judge of what works for you.
Lying Lovers. Protection #2. Notice How Pat Treats You
Yes, for today’s article I’ll refer to that alluring hottie as “Pat.”
Surely how Pat treats you matters more than how special you think she is.
For example, during your visit or call, does she ever ask questions about you? Quite different from sweet-talking you, right?
(And, no, asking about your cat doesn’t count. That’s not taking a personal interest in you!)
A “lover” worth the name is interested in learning about you as a person. Not just you as a collection of sex parts.
Lying Lovers. Protection #3. Meet in Energetic Real Time
Texting has its uses. I get that. Likewise emails and blogs. This one included!
But let’s be clear about energetic reality here on earth: Unless you’ve met a person at least once in real life, you’re interacting with a shadow. Or even a fantasy….
BTW, “Energetic real time” means being together in person or on the phone or over webcam.
Here’s one hint about the emptiness of relationships where you mostly text each other:
According to your own aura, the conversation is totally empty. Yes, EMPTY. Unless you’re together in energetic real time. By contrast, when texting, etc. you’re not able to store a single energetic hologram. Instead you’re settling for a relationship fragment.
Not only energetically empty — those virtual communications are emotionally hollow. Meaning what?
- You can project whatever you like onto that text.
- But that’s just like projecting a movie onto a blank wall. No truth value whatsoever, outside of your own expectations.
- And if you’re crushing (or just plain horny), your imagination will supply loads of convenient details. Like “What Pat REALLY meant.”
Unless you’re talking in person, you won’t even have the benefit of Stage One Energetic Literacy! Which is a pretty unreliable way of vibing out other people. Pretty bad, but still better than nothing. 😉
Lying lovers who “connect” with you by texting can easily succeed at deceiving you.
So, please, make it very clear to the person you’re dating: For you, texting is the way to set up a call. Not an acceptable replacement for a call or visit.
Any lover wannabe who isn’t willing to actually talk to you? Let that Pat go find somebody else to pretend to care about!
Lying Lovers. Protection #4. Lying Lovers. Protection #4. Before Sex, Aura Reading
Yes, I’m serious. First of all, you can develop excellent energetic literacy. You’re reading this screen, aren’t you? Just as you once learned word literacy, you can learn energetic literacy.
Once you get the knack, you can read any love interest’s aura. And do it accurately. Either in person or from the photos you can find on Facebook, Instagram, or Google Images.
So, before becoming sexually intimate, please-please-please learn about that eager lover. Research a deception-free zone, that person’s chakra databanks.
Second, you can always set up a session with any RES Expert to receive an aura reading. Just email a photo of Mr. Right or Ms. Perfection… on the day of your session.
Why Take the Precaution of Reading that Person’s Aura?
Because here’s what happens when you’re sexually intimate with Pat. To some degree, during the act, your auras merge. And you might as well note the time once your two bodies have separated. Because:
- For exactly three days, there will be a strong connection between your two auras.
- During that time, you may take on some of your lover’s karma. Like when a pickpocket steals your wallet. Or having somebody at work blame you for doing terrible work. (Pat’s aura might actually reveal that he has terrible power integrity. He’s the one who does terrible work. But you’ve opted in, sharing some of his karma.)
- Definitely, if your lover has sex with somebody else during those three days, guess what? Aurically, you’ll be intimate with that extra person as well. Even if you’ve never met each other at all. (Yes, that means taking on still more karma. Do you really want to over-complicate your path to Enlightenment?)
- Plus, for a caring person, sex can start to bind you to that lover. Even if Pat has horrible ethics, zero integrity, and constantly lies. You can fall in love, like characters in a Shakespeare comedy who’ve taken a love potion.
But Hold on. How about Self-Authority?
Okay, self-authority is a strong value in RES sessions, workshops, and books. I think it’s important to trust yourself.
However, self-authority is no substitute for skills. For example, most people believe they’re very good at spotting liars.
Sorry. A great deal of research suggests that just the opposite is true.
By contrast, Stage Three Energetic Literacy brings you accurate info about character. If you like, you can even add skills expressly designed to help you accurately Spot Liars, Cheaters, and Saints.
Lying Lovers or Not. #5 Protection. This One Is for Your Soul’s Journey in this Lifetime: Don’t Give up on Love
No matter what has occurred in your past…. Don’t give up on love.
Sure, you may feel discouraged for a moment or longer. But that’s a reaction, not a choice.
Choose to keep seeking love. Giving it. Receiving it.
Human love is ever-fresh. Like the presence of God.
Sometimes you’ll lose the experience of it. No blame. That happens to everyone.
But joy renews itself with each re-discovery. Blog-Buddies, dare to believe in love.