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Graduation Celebration. Joyful Persistence.

Graduation Celebration for many in the Engineering Dept. at the University of California, Berkeley

Graduation Celebration. This time of year, graduations happen a lot. Blog-Buddies, is your family having one this year? Please comment below. So that all of us in this informal, amazing community can celebrate together with you.

Also, of course, this is also Memorial Day weekend in America. Do any of you have stories to share of that kind of perseverance?

Seems to me, military courage and academic courage have a lot in common. My main family of three — Mitch, me, and The New Ph.D. — we sure got off easy. Since our son did the cushy, academic kind of service to society.

Cushy is, of course, a relative term. This doctorate took him six years straight.

Our Graduation Celebration Happened in Berkeley, California

My family’s high point shows in the picture above. One of Matt’s friends, Mehrdad Niknami, took that photo.  (As well as the one below.)

Click on it and you can see Matt and his advisor, Edward Lee. The professor is draping his student with a cloth “hood.” Signifying a new Ph.D. in Computer Science.

By this point in the ceremony, Mitch and I have spent hours viewing graduates on parade. Watching them walk timidly or proudly, stride or scurry, caper or teeter on ridiculously-high heels. First, hundreds of students received diplomas for a Master’s Degree. Finally a smaller group was hooded, receiving the degree called “Doctor of Philosophy.” So many tests they’d taken by now, so many hours of study, and now all they had to do was one final walk across the stage of that huge auditorium.

Contrasting with all that effort, this parent’s only test involved this: No stumbling or tumbling into Technique Time. Some of you Blog-Buddies know what I mean about that.

Fortunately I managed to pass. Since I could play with shallow perception instead of the deeper kind. Plenty of enjoyment remained, reading people deeper by way of body language:

  • Diverted by parents in the audience.
  • And centering on all those new grads from the Engineering Department.
  • Punctuated by the smooth and rhythmic recitation of names, graduates’ names; mostly Chinese names, actually.

Meanwhile, we participants sat with as much dignity as we could muster, feeling incredibly pampered as we sat on the plush, pink velvet upholstery.

Okay, in reality we got to sit on remarkably hard, pebbly seats in the Greek Theater. Sometimes hoisting up umbrellas. Other times, closing them up and politely letting them drip onto our shoes. But who cared? Certain parents, from time to time, might even have made discreet use of tissues.

I Wonder, Did All the Other Parents at that Commencement Ceremony

Think of their Upcoming Life Reviews?

And did all of the grads think about their Planning Meetings? Just a few human decades ago, before birth: These Planning Meetings culminate in setting up a Life Contract.

Well, one of these graduation parents certainly slipped into that zany kind of thinking.

Understandable though, isn’t it? Given that I often help past-life regression clients revisit their previous Life Reviews. Or, more rarely, revisit their Planning Meeting for this lifetime.

No wonder, then, how that big deal ceremony at this great American public university became, for me…  Like an inspiring reminder of what awaits each of us at the end of each human incarnation. As noted in Bigger than All the Night Sky — that’s my “spiritual but not religious” memoir:

Planning Meetings (before a lifetime on earth) might be the greatest art form ever, since what happens is nothing less than this: a soul shapes a new incarnation, then boldly commits. Quite the contrast to Life Reviews, when a soul comes out the other end.

Frankly this returning to heaven to learn about your recent incarnation… it’s like coming out the poop end of life… in contrast to the restaurant-like, lip-smacking deliciousness of a Planning Meeting.

Around here we have this saying, “Planning Meetings for joy. Life Reviews for… compassion.”

And I did ever feel compassion for these graduates. No longer kids but, by now, definitely adults. Like my son.

Now consider the educational stats:

  • 28 years old.
  • Having attended school — one way or another — since the age of 3.
  • That’s a solid quarter century of school-school-school.

Graduation Celebration Photo

The Dad, the Mom, the Grad, and Professor Lee

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Graduation Celebration. Rethinking Persistence

Every graduation can be a celebration of personal growth. For instance, this commencement for Matt. Sure, earning a Ph.D. takes persistence. But will it be a noble persistence or a jaw-clenching slog? In that context, I’ve got a persistence tale to share with you.

Last fall, Matt came here for a visit. Since he brought a certain muscle power with him, I asked a favor. Would he please dig up a big plant from the garden?

You see, I’d experimented with Zebra Grass. Ornamental, it turned out to be, as advertised. However, the plant was also crazy-big.

Matt’s more a runner than a backyard digger, but he graciously agreed to help. About an hour later, he appeared at the front door. How he was sweating! Smiling and sweating! Most notably, what was the young athlete carrying? The shovel I’d given him.

Broken.

Managing to wear out a sturdy shovel? Now, that’s a triumph of sorts.

And finding a way to enjoy his life, even while doing a pretty irksome chore. That’s my boy, Matthew Emmanuel Weber!

Now he had a new trophy to add to all the soccer ones from his growing up years.

As if! His parents didn’t carry the thing upstairs, in triumph, to the trophy shelves in his bedroom. Instead the three of us just laughed a whole lot. Then we marched to the backyard to admire the little moat he had dug in the red clay soil, a moat surrounding a huge remaining thicket of Zebra Grass roots.

In triumph, we tossed that particular trophy into the garbage can.

Incidentally, when spring came this year, we hired three burly men. Even they needed quite a while to remove that shrubby, stubborn Zebra Grass.

In Conclusion

When you grew up, Blog-Buddies, did you ever hear this saying? “Success is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration”?

I don’t think that has to be true, do you?

Seems to me, Matt kind of enjoyed doing that ridiculous digging. For much of the time, he probably had a quiet smile on his face. Because he has learned how to enjoy doing things. One of life’s lesser-known skills: Joyful Persistence, we could call it.

That can be a choice. And a way of life shot through with human-bright inspiration.

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  1. 1
    Kylie Sparks says:

    I love that photo!!! Congratulations Rose, Mitch and Matt! And congratulations to all of you graduates!!

  2. 2
    Emily Turner says:

    Wonderful Photos! Congratulations to Matt!!

  3. 3
    Eve says:

    Congratulations to Matt! It is a huge accomplishment.

  4. 4
    Brittany says:

    Congratulations Matt! 🎉

    I like the idea of living life with joyful persistence. Thank you!

  5. 5
    Kathleen says:

    Congratulations to Matt!! Such an achievement 😊😊

  6. 6
    Living on Earth says:

    Oh such a sweet picture of your family. Big smiles over here.

    Congratulations Matt!! That’s a great accomplishment 🎉

  7. 7
    Ethan says:

    Congratulations to Matt!

    Thank you for sharing your joy with us and the great photo-so nice to see you all.

  8. 8
    A Proud Stepmom says:

    Awe…sweet story. I love the picture too!

    Big scholastic milestone achievement to acknowledge that joyful persistence! Good for him and congratulations!

  9. 9
    A Proud Stepmom says:

    I myself just went to my sweetie of a stepdaughter’s high school graduation.

    I did notice in the body language in most of the graduates, including my dear intelligent young (almost 18 year old adult), sophisticated stepdaughter.

  10. 10
    A Proud Stepmom says:

    There seemed to be a bit of relief in the way they smiled, so effortlessly, with their lighthearted joking in conversations and their bouncy steps into the stadium.

    It was quite a joyous dance to watch indeed. So much fun!

  11. 11
    Julie says:

    So happy to hear this news.

    Congratulations Matt, Mitch, and Rose!

  12. 12
    Jnana says:

    Big congratulations! And what a happy juxtaposition, joyful persistence.

    Never occured to me to combine the two. I’m inspired to try it.

  13. 13
    Jean says:

    Big congratulations to Matt. And to Rose and Mitch!

    Great to hear about all this. Thank you Rose for sharing.

  14. 14
    Liane says:

    Congratulations to Matt, and the whole successful family!

  15. 15
    Living on Earth says:

    I so enjoy your story telling Rose…

    By the time I finished the post, it felt like I was there with you and just got back home from the event 😊

  16. 16
    Living on Earth says:

    I particularly loved when you pointed this out: “Contrasting with all that effort, this parent’s only test involved this: No stumbling or tumbling into Technique Time. Some of you Blog-Buddies know what I mean about that. 😉”

  17. 17
    Living on Earth says:

    That’s a big growth area for me. Consciously and persistently creating new habits to keep staying on the surface of life, out of the dedicated 20 min time frame.

  18. 18
    Living on Earth says:

    This kind of sentimental event could be challenging without even realizing that I’m sliding into deeper level than I prefer.

    So it was pretty cool when you specifically mentioned it here.

  19. 19
    Engineer Jesse says:

    What a huge accomplishment! Congratulations Matt, Mitch and Rose!

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