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Real Smiles. A Bigger Blessing than You Knew

Real Smiles. What is their impact on people’s auras?

Real Smiles. Sure, in theory you know they’re a good thing.

But what if they might be a bigger blessing than you’ve ever guessed?

Today I’ll share with you some aura reading research. It reveals the spiritual power of a real smile, even with strangers.

Joe Was Intrigued

He read our recent article on Fake Smiles. And he read all the comments, too. (Definitely, I recommend always reading the comments. Quite some community we’ve got here!)

Thus, Joe encountered a startling statement from me. The gist was this:

What if you find yourself fake smiling, and you can’t stop?

Then you might consider booking a session with me for RES Energy HEALING.

So far, Joe has been the only one to take me up on that offer. And our session surprised both of us.

It was helpful in some deeply personal ways that I won’t blab about here. However, I requested permission to describe other parts of our session. Parts of general interest, to put it mildly. Graciously, Joe agreed. So here we go.

Detective Work on Real Smiles

Joe and I discussed examples of times he “Couldn’t keep himself from fake smiling. Just couldn’t help himself.”

Problem solving was highly specific. (Related to some of Joe’s long-term growth areas.) Soon, though, we came to the parts that I’ll share with you today.

Incidentally, what if you’re not sure what counts as a “real smile”? Don’t just make something up.

Among body language experts, an authentic — or Duchenne — smile has very specific characteristics. You can read about that here. Also I go into more detail about “Smile Styles” in my book about body language + face reading + auras, “Read People Deeper.”

Smiling at Strangers. Giving Real Smiles Ever Since Childhood

First of all, let’s celebrate something that many kids do, up to age five or so.

Like what Joe did. His mother used to tell a funny story about how “silly” he was as a kid. Because they’d be out taking a walk, and whenever Baby Joey would see a stranger, honestly! What would he do? Ridiculously friendly, he’d smile really big. Smile at total strangers. And then he’d shout, “Hello! Hello!” As if he were really thrilled to meet people!

How would you know if you were one of those kids? Due to family stories.

Hey, what if you have such a story of acting “way too friendly” to total strangers? Like yelling, “Hello, Mr. Policeman” whenever you’d see somebody in uniform… Please share it below.

In my memoir, I called this kind of friendliness “Throwing My Rattle.” A description appears near the start of my memoir. As for the impact of what Joe and I — and maybe you — were doing back then? You’ll get some idea if you keep on reading.

Real Smiles and Baby Gladys

Which Healing Centerpiece did I facilitate, helping Joe? Vibrational Re-Positioning®.

Together, Joe and I (and God) explored two incidents. Both of these bothered Joe a lot. And he didn’t understand why.

First, Joe was strolling down the street when he saw Little Gladys and her mom. They were walking toward him.

Mom was fiddling with the back of the stroller.  By contrast, Little Gladys was looking directly at him.

Joe found himself smiling at the kid, maybe five years old. Sure, he gave a real smile.

But how did that girl respond? It was as though Joe could see her making a choice. She wouldn’t smile back. Nor acknowledge Joe’s smile in any other way.

Joe felt creeped out. He wondered, “What’s wrong with me, that I smile at people I don’t even know?”

What Joe Learned about Baby Gladys from Vibrational Re-Positioning 

Pulling out an energetic hologram from the incident — that’s part of Vibrational Re-Positioning. First I researched some chakra databanks belonging to Joe. And then one, just one, from Baby Gladys.

Because regarding that unsmiling kid who glared… one peek at her aura was plenty.

Here’s the gist of what I told Joe:

When smiling, he was reaching out warmly. Like sending out an ocean wave of unconditional love. Sending it to a fellow human.

By contrast, Joe was quite right about discerning that Baby Gladys made a deliberate choice. Straight from that little person’s Root Chakra Databank for Presence in the Room: “I’m a hater. I’m here to hate people, and ruin as many lives as possible.”

Shocked? I was. Because I’ve read that same chakra databank on many hundreds of people by now. And I’ve found a similar mess in the chakra databanks of some adults, not many. Thank God, this sort of wickedness is rare.

However, this was the first time I encountered a practiced intent of hatred, fully formed, in a child.

My Interpretation of a Real Smiles Consequence, Aura-Level

Naturally, Joe felt upset. When you reach out to somebody and that person doesn’t reciprocate, it can feel lousy.

But this became a teachable moment for Joe. (Especially since “Energetic Sub-Routines” were leaving his aura. Remember, we weren’t just chatting. This was a removal of causational STUFF, courtesy of Vibrational Re-Positioning.)

Teachable how? Because Joe understood how this wasn’t a personal rejection. Not in the least.

Would I recommend that Joe feel sorry for Baby Gladys? Definitely not. Why bother.

More important was learning to recognize that human beings differ. Widely! Wildly.

Yet one more reason to learn good skills of energetic literacy! With skill, you can research the aura of anybody you like. Either in person or from regular photographs. 

Some wicked people really do live on earth. Right from the start, they come in just as creepy as Baby Gladys. (Given what I’ve learned from facilitating sessions of past-life regression, many souls choose to have a perpetrator lifetime. In which case, the wickedness is established right in the original Life Contract for that particular incarnation.)

Good to Know, in General, about Real Smiles

In general, if you give somebody a real smile and that person doesn’t respond, anything could be going on.

Know that you gave something beautiful. Trust that you really did give something beautiful.

Besides, usually a lack of response is not a rejection of you, personally. More is going on. Just as, in our exploration of different people’s fake smiles, no two people were alike, inwardly. And just as came up in the second part of Joe’s session with Vibrational Re-Positioning.

What Joe Learned about Mr. Grumpy from Vibrational Re-Positioning

Joe also requested energy healing — and more clarity — about another rejected smile. This time, he was shopping at the supermarket. A man walked in his direction. As is his habit (a spiritually powerful habit), Joe gave that stranger a smile. A real smile.

How long does it take to give a real smile? Maybe 4-5 seconds. It takes a while to make the full set of facial movements.

Well, mid-smile, that man turned away. As if recoiling from a slap! Which is why, from now on, I’m referring to that dude as “Mr. Grumpy.”

Researching away, here’s what I found.

Joe was giving his usual gift of a friendly smile. Aura-wise, his aura while smiling showed that he was giving unconditional love. A spiritual kind of love. Something all people deserve to give and receive. Unless they choose otherwise.

Although sweet, Joe’s part of the social equation wasn’t particularly surprising. What was?

Something Altogether Different: Mr. Grumpy’s Response

Let’s break it down, one chakra databank at a time. (Exactly how I shared the aura-level research with my client Joe.)

Mr. Grumpy’s Root Chakra Databank for Presence in the Room

Symbolic Size: 29 feet. Comfortably within normal range.

Quality: Mr. Grumpy was going through a time of sadness, loneliness, loss. He felt terrible. Unlovable.

Not being a psychic, I can’t tell what had happened to him. Was there a recent romantic breakup? A long-term lack of friendship?

All I can tell you, Blog-Buddies, is that Mr. Grumpy wasn’t really feeling angry or snarky. Not at all. More like he felt rejected.

At this point in the aura research, you might wonder, “Why did he reject a simple smile? Why wouldn’t he have accepted it eagerly?”

Well, keep reading. I find that it’s very important to research many chakra databanks. If you want to get to the truth of what’s going on, subconsciously and energetically — then you can do much better than “picking up a vibe” or doing a chakra reading. Energetic literacy allows us to learn the truth about someone in depth and detail.

Mr. Grumpy’s Heart Chakra Databank for Emotional Receiving

Symbolic Size: 80 feet. Somewhat over-functioning.

Quality: Mr. Grumpy was filled up. After a second or two, he had to turn away. Although his heart ached so much, here was something new entering in. Something sweet and caring.

So unusual!

Mr. Grumpy took in all that he could. Like a starving man who quickly gobbles up his first real meal in a very long time.

He filled up… and then some. No wonder he had to turned away, afterward.

His inner reality wasn’t any kind of rejection. You get that, Blog-Buddies? Quite the opposite

Recognizing this gave me a gentle shock. Serving as a reminder that outer appearances are so different from inner reality.

Mr. Grumpy’s Third Eye Chakra Databank for Connection to Spiritual Source

Symbolic Size: 3 inches. Close to shutdown.

Quality: Maybe you’ve guessed about the quality of this chakra databank. Seemed like a no-brainer, once you read that this chakra databank was nearly shut down. However, if you guessed about chakra databank quality based on size? How much you’ll miss.

Here’s how that quality seemed to me:

Before this moment, for a long time, Mr. Grumpy had felt discouraged, bereft of comfort. Based on the quality of this chakra databank, for a long very time, this man had lived with this chakra databank completely shut down. Like having the door to God closed. Living with no access. And no hope of ever developing any real kind of connection.

But the warmth of Joe’s smile brought a wake-up call. Because every smile of unconditional love is a conduit for Divine love to flow from one human being to another.

Accordingly, that door opened. It opened for this lonely man. Imagine a heavy, iron door creaking open just a bit. Just enough!

Given the quality of the chakra databank, here’s how it seems to me. Mr. Grumpy wasn’t turning away from Joe on purpose. He didn’t mean to act rude. Instead, he needed a private moment. Not looking at anyone human. Instead, and very inwardly, he was having a glimpse of God.

And not simply for one quick moment. His door was open again. A new chance had begun.

You see, Blog-Buddies, quiet miracles happen on earth every day. Miracles caused by love. Including everyday miracles set in motion by unconditional love, directed toward a stranger.

In Conclusion

Might I suggest?

Don’t do fake smiles:

  1. Unless you’re at work, returning somebody else’s fake smile.
  2. Or unless you’re being photographed, and don’t want to smile all the way, which would scrunch up your eyes.

But what if somebody else has fake smiled at you? You might nod a bit. Or look at the person and do a quick eyebrow lift in acknowledgement. Perhaps both. These are universal forms of friendly recognition.

And what if you’re being photographed and you feel bad about your teeth? You might wish to do a Viggo Mortensen, simply avoiding fake smiles.

Controversial statement coming, not meant to be harsh: Regarding bad feelings about your teeth, are you also going to stop talking? Because every time you talk, you’re showing your teeth. So what?

Even more controversial statement coming, alert! Does vanity really have to outweigh a person’s desire to give others the gift of an authentic smile?

Many people insist upon smiling, no matter what. For example, I’m a big fan of fashion vlogger Justine Leconte. Right at the start of each video, she introduces herself. Then she gives a great big smile, like this. So what if her gums show more than her teeth? Both generous and fearless. I love that about her.

Maybe you disagree with my above-mentioned advice about smiling. No prob. Feel free to share your views by commenting here. You might teach me something. (Other Blog-Buddies, too.)

Compared to what follows, I don’t feel that strongly about how you choose to smile. But I do feel strongly about the following. By now, my client Joe does too:

If you’re going to smile, make it real. Because that’s one way that you can help the grace of God to shine out.

You’ll help bring more spiritual truth… into a world that needs it so much.

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  1. 1
    Ethan says:

    Beautiful blog post Rose. So many gems in here. I like “Because every smile of unconditional love is a conduit for Divine love to flow from one human being to another.”

    And this has nothing to do with enlightenment-this is anybody? I am inspired to STOP the fake smiling-I do this a lot.

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    Ethan says:

    Thank you also to Joe for sharing.

  3. 3
    Graham says:

    Thank you Joe, this was very inspiring!

  4. 4
    Olivia Swan says:

    Beautiful post Rose!

    Made me happy cry 🙂

  5. 5
    Dancer says:

    This is so interesting.

    I just loved the aura changes in Mr Grumpy, and all it took was a few seconds of a smiling Joe.

  6. 6
    Dancer says:

    And this :”Serving as a reminder that outer appearances are so different from inner reality.”

    Thank you for this post and thank you to Joe for sharing and for being a person who smiles at strangers.

  7. 7
    Living on Earth says:

    Joe thank you for sharing your experiences!

  8. 8
    Living on Earth says:

    For as long as I remember, my smiles have not been reciprocated. And for a long time it didn’t even register to me that they weren’t.

    Because I was smiling from the heart almost like a reflex versus an obligation or politeness. So I continued to be myself regardless.

  9. 9
    Living on Earth says:

    By the time I discovered RES, the weight of ‘rejections’ were getting very heavy on me.

  10. 10
    Living on Earth says:

    As my sense of self got stronger and I learned Stage 3 Energetic Literacy, I spontaneously stopped wondering “What’s wrong with me?”.

  11. 11
    Living on Earth says:

    A strong Energetic Literacy is a life saver in this new era.

    All my conscious doubts or curiosity of any interaction is mostly answered with a technique time. If its too much for me to handle on my own, I book a session.

  12. 12

    Thanks so much to all of you who have been sharing your experiences and Aha!s. ETHAN, GRAHAM, OLIVIA SWAN, DANCER, and LIVING ON EARTH: I’m smiling at each of you right now!

    And OLIVIA, that new language (to me) is a keeper: To happy-cry.

  13. 13
    Anchie says:

    Wow, what an amazing post! Thank you for sharing the session, Joe and Rose. The reading of Mr. Grumpy was so moving. What a testament to the power of real smiles!

    Now that I know their true power, I will never shy away from wholeheartedly smiling with my teeth! 🙂 I always felt awkward smiling with my mouth closed anyhow…

  14. 14

    ANCHIE, you got it. I’m so glad. Thank you.

  15. 15
    Emily Turner says:

    This was so lovely.

    I was also very friendly as a child, my mother called it “having no fear” *eyeroll*. Thank you so much Joe for sharing this!

  16. 16
    Emily Turner says:

    “Unless you’re at work, returning somebody else’s fake smile.“

    This is so helpful Rose, after reading the first fake smiles post I was a little perturbed by my fake smiles at work, but I realised I was returning fake smiles, there’s just a lot more at my current place of work than I was previously used to. I’ll still prefer a real smile any day!

  17. 17

    Oh, EMILY, I’m so saddened to learn (in your Comment #15) about yet one more way that your mother insulted you and maybe confused you for a while.

    Isn’t that interesting, also, that she coined the term about you, “Having no fear.” And then attempted to eyeroll that into an insult. Thank God you are who you are.

  18. 18

    Regarding your Comment #16, I think it’s so important to sort out social skills. It can remove a lot of inner torment.

    You know, EMILY, that I believe that life on earth is all about consciousness, learning, and the use of free will.

  19. 19

    If I were to generalize about everyday life, I’d say this that quality of life depends upon:
    * Willingness to give and to grow
    * Desire to learn what’s true,
    * STUFF removal + PUT-IN that wakes up the soul
    * And social skills.,

  20. 20
    Julie says:

    Great post!

    The other day in the park a little boy ran past me and yelled “My name’s Sean! What’s yours!”

    So I told him. It was great to be so enthusiastically greeted, although his father was less pleased with his friendliness.

  21. 21
    Julie says:

    Later I heard the boy ask “Can she play on the swing too, or is she too big for it?”

    LOL. What a generous kid. He didn’t want anyone to be left out!

    It reminds me, along with this post, what a gift friendliness is.

  22. 22

    Irresistible Julie, glad 50% of those guys could appreciate you.

    Friendliness IS such a gift, isn’t it? Back in the day, I would sit on foam mattresses, doing the TM Sidhi-program. Partly I’d do a technique for developing “friendliness.” In retrospect, what an irony! Trying to develop friendliness by sitting with eyes closed, not talking to anybody, while in a room with hundreds of other meditators.

  23. 23

    Although I’m a big fan of techniques, I think the best way to develop friendliness is not to use any fancy techniques at all. As a human being, simply go where people are. Smile at them. Talk to them.

    While in a public place, for instance, if I ever see a janitor or cleaning lady, I make it a point to stop and smile. I’ll give a sincere compliment about how good the place looks. Oh, my heart, how their faces light up!

  24. 24
    Brittany says:

    This is a great post! Living on Earth, I can relate to the “wondering what’s wrong with me?”

    It’s slowly dissipating thanks to RES.

  25. 25
    Brittany says:

    However, I didn’t always continue to be myself, so kudos to you!

    I would feel ashamed and then stopped smiling because I feared even MORE rejection.

  26. 26
    Brittany says:

    I didn’t realize until thinking about it now that I no longer hold back my real smile.

    I even take it a bit further. I’m slightly embarrassed to admit this, but I tend to give a real big smile to most everyone, and hold it until they give one back!

  27. 27
    Brittany says:

    And if they don’t? Well, I guess I got some good real smiling practice in.

    Laughing at myself over here…

  28. 28

    BRITTANY, what an inspiring and honest tale of personal growth. By the end I wasn’t laughing, but I sure was smiling.

    And I was thinking of the cliche, “No good deed goes unpunished.” Of course, that’s nonsense (to me, and to anybody else who understands the concept of karma). However I think it is true that, “Many good deeds don’t get praised.” At least, until we have our Life Reviews….

  29. 29
    Kylie says:

    I love this blog and all of the comments. I’ve noticed that a lot of times I start to smile and then get derailed by unfriendliness. It’s mostly children who get my real smile, because they smile back at me. Not all of them of course.

    I have definitely encountered children who very visibly reject my smile and I know better now than to keep giving those children attention.

  30. 30
    Kylie says:

    Once Rose researched a toddler for me once, a toddler who did not respond to my smile in a friendly way at all.

    That child was cursing me! I am now much more aware of the fact that all children are not sweet. Some of them are having perpetrator lifetimes and they came into life that way.

  31. 31
    Kylie says:

    But Brittany I admire your chutzpah!

    I’ll try to be a little braver with my smiling–I don’t have to let it wither and die on my face for lack of positive response.

  32. 32
    Kylie says:

    Julie I love your comment #21. Interacting with kids is the best part of my day, because so many of them have great smiles and like to swing, run and play.

  33. 33

    KYLIE, I’m so glad you enjoyed this blog post. Thanks for all these comments.

    I’m especially relieved at smiles no longer withering and dying on that pretty face of yours.

  34. 34
    Living on Earth says:

    Brittany, I’m so happy that you’re not holding back now 🙂

  35. 35
    Living on Earth says:

    Comment #25.. by” being myself” I meant that it was instinctual and before I could even think I’d offer a big smile.

    Otherwise I was so completely far from myself, any sense of self, that I didn’t even recognize I was being rejected in the objective reality.

  36. 36
    Living on Earth says:

    Right before I discovered RES, I went through a very rough period where I couldn’t bring myself to offer or accept any real smiles.

    Not until my sense of self got stronger, many many sessions later, that I realized all of this.

  37. 37
    Living on Earth says:

    On a different note, I so appreciate this post and all the comments regarding not all toddlers are the same.

    To me it gives a new meaning to what it means to have children or not.

  38. 38
    Living on Earth says:

    Or I should say to choose to have one or not.

    There is a real pressure in society, well collective consciousness, to have children and all the other labels around that topic.

  39. 39

    Thanks so much for these comments, LIVING ON EARTH.

    Seems to me, you have an uncommon talent for noticing — and putting words to — hidden experiences and shifts in consciousness.

  40. 40

    Regarding the role of Collective Consciousness in the decision to have children, sure. There’s a lot of pressure for women to breed, pressure from all the thousands of years of the Age of Faith.

    In The Age of Awakening, new understandings are emerging. When people say and do things, like what you’ve noted in the last couple of your comments, wow! Into Collective Consciousness it goes. So thank you, dear LIVING ON EARTH.

  41. 41

    Today, women do have the right to get an education. The right to vote. The right to drive a car! The right to move freely in society without having a male protector.

    Of course, as humanity (and Collective Conscousness) move forward in The Age of Awakening, I predict that women will keep (or regain) the full right to use birth control and terminate unwanted pregnancies. Sure, some people today are acting badly about all of this, but their power is ebbing. Especially if people in our countries VOTE.

  42. 42
    Kylie says:

    Great comments, living on earth. There is so much pressure on women to have children, or to parent in a particular way.

    Parenting is always a fascinating topic in my ESL conversation circles.

  43. 43
    Kylie says:

    What came up in our ESL class this morning was how all of parents are having trouble with children who from a very early age, know what they like and don’t like, and are very strong willed.

    Many parents voiced the thought that it was different when they were children. Then, parents gave you clothes to wear and you just wore them.

  44. 44
    Kylie says:

    I was thinking “it’s not the age of Faith” anymore!

  45. 45

    Fascinating observation, KYLIE. And I sure do agree with you.

    Obedience is not the ultimate virtue, as it was in the Age of Faith. Now, like those children, we can grow in our spiritual self-authority.

  46. 46
    Leo Watts says:

    Awesome to read of how a real smile can truly be a spiritual gift. Awe inspiring.

    Makes me rethink how and when and why I smile, and at whom 😊

  47. 47

    LEO, you’re getting it. And there will be a face reading treat for you and others taking my workshop on the last weekend of this month, “Spot Liars, Cheaters, and Saints.”

    You’re going to be learning which face data, including certain types of smile, can tip you off to dishonesty. Big fun, big benefit for all you students — that’s what I’m expecting.

  48. 48
    Brittany Black says:

    Kylie, thanks for the support! You have such a beautiful smile; I hope you share it more often with others!

    Living on Earth, thanks for your kind words. I’m so glad you found your sense of self. RES never ceases to amaze me.

  49. 49
    Brittany Black says:

    Everyone enjoy that workshop!!! I wish I could make it!

  50. 50
    Kylie Sparks says:

    Thank you Brittany!

    Hope to see you again at a workshop soon!

  51. 51
    Erica says:

    I also love Justine Leconte’s big smile!! 🙂

  52. 52
    Erica says:

    This was such a special post to read, Rose; thanks to you and to Joe for sharing it.

  53. 53
    Erica says:

    I have a big, easy smile and in general, where I come from, it’s well-received.

    Currently I live in a place where people don’t tend to smile at each othe – in fact, Rose, you researched a particularly puzzling incident of this nature in one of our sessions a while back – with similar conclusions to what you drew here.

  54. 54
    Erica says:

    I’ve been learning to smile much less because a smile is so rarely returned here, and it often doesn’t seem welcome at all.

    I have felt the sting of this and the reminder that it isn’t ‘about me’ is helpful 🙂

  55. 55
    Erica says:

    Recently I’ve had a couple of people comment on my smile, because it’s unusual here but also because they appreciate it – it’s wonderful to think that a genuine smile really is what it feels like to me: a bit of love and shared humanity 🙂

  56. 56
    Rose says:

    Important observations shared here, Erica. Thank you.

    How I think of this blog, in general, is that it’s purpose is to bring more truth into this world. You’ve inspired me.

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