Deeper Perception Made Practical

Losing Yourself. Finding Yourself, Too.

Losing Yourself? Australian author Beth Spencer might be able to help. For a hint why, check out her uncommonly on-the-level eye gaze.

Losing Yourself. Today’s post is easy to read. Yet it might prove surprisingly sticky.

For me, what follows here was heart-heating, soul-sticky. And for you? You’ll be the judge.

Definitely, I loved, just loved, the following poem from Beth Spencer’s latest book. “Vagabondage” is a spiritual memoir, highly personal, absolutely eloquent. And Beth had the courage to shape it through a series of interconnected poems.

By contrast, my memoir just had some poems. Noteworthy: Like me, Beth Spencer cares a lot about truth when she writes.

What else do both of us share? A passion for personal growth and spiritual awakening.

  • For me, that involves getting “Bigger than All the Night Sky.”
  • For Beth, the journey may be far more down to earth.
  • But two very compatible journeys, seems to me.

Losing Yourself

Sure, it’s happened to us all sometimes, hasn’t it? But Beth has given one of the ultimate, cheeky, descriptions of accidental self-losing.

Incidentally, “Losing Yourself” is my favorite theme in her book. Within that theme, “Lost Woman Looks for Herself” is my favorite poem. Of course, the following is excerpted with permission from the author.

Lost Woman Looks for Herself

(found poem)

by Beth Spencer


A foreign tourist is reported missing

in the volcanic canyon Eldgjá in the southern

highlands of Iceland on a Saturday afternoon

when she fails to return to her tour bus.


The driver waits

one hour before he notifies police.


Fifty people search

in vehicles, by foot.

Even a helicopter is prepared

but is delayed by fog.


And then at 3 in the morning

the search is called off.


The missing woman

has been on the bus all along.


The woman, the Chief of Police in Hvolsvöllur said

was innocent of the mistake.


She even participated

in the search for herself.


It seems that before she re-entered

the bus after the stop

she changed her clothes and freshened up,

and the other passengers

failed to recognise her.


She too failed to recognise

the description of herself.


She had, said the Chief of Police,

‘no idea that she was missing.’

Curious to Read More?

I highly recommend “Vagabondage” (UWAPublishing, 2014). But you guessed that, right? Maybe these links will interest you too.


Blog-Buddies, have you ever lost yourself?

In a fog? Or in sorrow? In a relationship? In Iceland?

Through working too hard? Through not knowing your place in the world?

Please COMMENT below with your stories. Including any happy endings.

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  1. 1
    Beth Spencer says:

    thank you Rose!

    and for your help along the way during my year living in the campervan, connecting via skype I think it was back then. xxx Beth

  2. 2

    You’re welcome, BETH. Back in the day, I loved doing Energy Spirituality sessions to help you.

    And what a gorgeous surprise it was to learn that you’re such a superb writer.

  3. 3

    Haha, I just noticed that your “photo” or “Gravitar” or whatever doesn’t show your steady gaze. But instead, looks remarkably like a glowing kangaroo.

    Oh, how I love my clients from Downunder!!!!!

  4. 4
    Ethan says:

    Beautiful poem Beth!

    Thank you for sharing this with us Rose. Before I found RES I was lost in spiritual addiction, now I’m enjoying my human life-but I am still learning to appreciate what I’ve got.

  5. 5
    Ethan says:

    I am curious- is Beth’s ” uncommonly on-the-level eye gaze” a compassion awakener like down-turned eyes?

  6. 6
    Olivia Swan says:

    Thank you for the recommendation Rose. I think many people lose themselves, especially women.

    I lost myself in a marriage, in trying to please others, in addiction, and in despair.

  7. 7
    Olivia Swan says:

    Thanks to RES I found find myself again.

    Somehow the loss was a blessing . . . finding myself again has allowed me to recognize what I had lost. And now I can more clearly see my value, my truth, and appreciate myself more.

  8. 8

    OLIVIA, I’m so moved by what you wrote.

    It has been quite a privilege, watching your transformation through all these years. And co-creating some help. You always struck me as having tremendous inner strength.

  9. 9

    ETHAN, I appreciate your comments here. Thank you.

    Regarding your Comment #6, first of all, what is a “Compassion Awakener”? This comes from my system of Face Reading Secrets® . You can learn more about Compassion Awakeners in “The NEW Power of Face Reading.” Here’s a link to a YouTube video about that how-to book for better communication.

  10. 10

    So, ETHAN, I know you’ve read that book. Did you find any part of that book to be about eye gaze? That’s expression.

    Let’s not take concepts about Face Reading and mix them in with noticing a facial expression. Good question, though!

  11. 11
    Liane says:

    Thank you, Beth!

    Been lost in all the things mentioned above (with the exception of Iceland), and including burnout and depression.

  12. 12
    Ethan says:

    Thank you Rose.

  13. 13
    An Avid Reader says:

    Wow. Wow. Wow. Thank you, Rose for sharing the poem.

    Thank you, Beth, for writing it and giving Rose permission to share it with us!

  14. 14

    LIANE, ETHAN, AVID READER — thanks so much for your contributions, questions, sharing.

    And yes, I continue to feel awed by BETH’S talent. Feeling grateful that she let me share this poem from “Vagabondage.”

  15. 15
    Liane says:

    I ordered the book. A present to myself on this Fourth of July.

  16. 16

    LIANE, I loved it. Hope you do, too.

    And if you do, please help the author by reviewing at Amazon.

  17. 17
    Beth Spencer says:

    Thanks everyone for the lovely comments. So glad it resonated.

    Hope you enjoy Vagabondage, Liane.

  18. 18

    BETH, always so good to hear from you. If you can spare a few moments, I wonder if you would bring your perspective on tattoos. Here.

    Partly because you’d be the first one bringing perspective from your continent. Mostly because anything you write tends to fascinate me.

  19. 19
    Liane says:

    So excited for the book to arrive! Something to look forward to ……

  20. 20
    Liane says:

    Without this post I would have never known about (or read) Beth Spencer’s book, “Vagabondage’.

    What a wonderful, witty, funny, tug-at-my-heartstrings read! So glad Beth included the photos…. lending a visual anchor to her emotions. Will gladly leave feedback on Amazon.

  21. 21

    LIANE, I’m so glad you also enjoyed “Vagabondage.” And I’m sure that Beth Spencer willl appreciate your review so much.

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