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Blaming Narcissists? Energy Spirituality Perspective

Blaming Narcissists? You have much better alternatives. (Keep reading.)

Blaming Narcissists? Can you tell one a mile away? Today’s focus on narcissists is understandable. But you can do so much better for yourself. This article includes five practical tips. Helping you to stop the casual hating.

Or, if this idea appeals to you more, “Protect yourself energetically from narcissists.” (Find details in Comment #1.)

First of All, Check out on the Earlier Posts of this Series

Highly recommended, since this post concludes a three-part series! Aiming to liberate you from a ridiculously popular social fad.

Hate or Fear Narcissists? If So, You’re Joining a Huge Club. A HATE Club

Look, you would never join a hate group, right? Even though hate groups are on the rise. Like, in America, up 30% in recent years.

Clearly you’re far too sophisticated to join a group like the Ku Klux Klan. Well, guess what? Wrapping hatred in psychological savvy. Or donning the sanctimony of superior knowing? That’s a version of hating too. Not that you meant it that way.

  1. If you utter the word narcissist, it might feel like striking a blow for justice.
  2. Actually, the history of hate speech shows that haters usually feel a certain righteousness.
  3. Otherwise, flagging narcissists might be more like a little hobby for you. Simply fun. Like a side interest.

If that third option is true, please quit while it’s easy. Stop scratching the hate itch. Before you get to the point of delivering “righteous beatings.”

And please consider sharing this article with others:

  • Friends who mean well.
  • Friends who would be horrified to learn that they are part of a huge, loosely organized, hate group.
  • Nonetheless they are.

Casual Hate? Don’t Give It a Pass in Others. And Please Don’t Do It Yourself

Hatred seems fine to many Americans. So long as they’re not hating their own kind.

Witness a shocking, guilt-free admission by a bus driver in Minnesota. I read this story today in the Washington Post.

Bus driver Don Brink greets all the blond children he’s taking to elementary school. Then his route goes into “the neighborhood he called Little Mexico, even though most of its residents were Central American.”

Instead of greeting these children, when they get on the bus, he says nothing.

“Strange kids,” he calls them to the reporter.

What’s he going to call these immigrant kids when they grow up? Narcissists?

Stop Blaming Narcissists — These Five Tips May Help

Yes, these five tips might help. And why bother to keep reading? Why dare to lose the “fun” hobby that makes the name-callers seem soooooo superior?

  1. Stop the blaming to avoid hurting others.
  2. Plus, every time we indulge in this form of gossip, guess what? We’re sending out pretty awful Remote Negative Thought Forms. (Learn to heal that type of STUFF in the Spiritually Sparkling Collection of Workshops.)
  3. Also, you’ll avoid heaping up, in return, pretty awful karma. Namely, bad karma diminishing your quality of life!

Stop Blaming Narcissists #1. No Diagnosing Mental Illness without a License

Practicing medicine without a licence is a crime. Such as self-appointed psychiatry. So, please, while you’re at it:

If you want to earn the right to use terminology like that…

Buy yourself a copy of this famous reference book. And start hitting yourself over the head with it. JOKE!

Instead, get a professional degree as a mental health expert. (Although, oops! Mental health professionals don’t turn psychiatric diagnoses into schoolyard insults.)

Stop Blaming Narcissists #2. Don’t Live in Vibes. Live in Reality.

Avoid becoming a victim of your own energy sensitivity. Especially since we’re living in the Age of Awakening, it’s all too easy to go on a long inner journey. Unproductively wallowing in deep fears. Such as terrifying name-calling of “all the narcissists in my life.”

Instead, do this. Ask yourself, what did that person do in objective reality? Then decide, is there anything I can do about it? And if there’s something helpful to do or say, go for it. Otherwise, move on. Please.

Teaching Tale!

Admittedly, I’m changing a few details. Protecting anonymity. Okay, here goes.

My friend Joe works at a school. Recently he met the new principal, Ms. Gladys. Telling me about it, he said, Ms. Gladys is a narcissist.

Then Joe explained:

I can already tell he’s excellent at his job. But he’s snippy.

Like he needs to hire a new librarian for the school. I told her who would be good to hire. She didn’t follow my advice.

What a narcissist!

See How Fast Joe Zig-Zagged?

Starting with objective reality, “Ms. Gladys didn’t take my advice”

Scooting over to subjective interpretation: “She’s snippy.”

And then making a righteous dash over to mental health diagnosis: “narcissist, narcissist.”

Stop Blaming Narcissists #3. Avoid Irresponsible “Help” for Empaths

Not all empath coaches are equally helpful.  Some specialize in this kind of hogwash:

Supposedly… Being an empath makes you vulnerable. And all your suffering is really due to narcissists, vampires, etc.

Stop believing anything you’ve heard like that. These empath “teachers” don’t even know how to do Skilled Empath Merge. So how much do they really have to teach us empaths?

(Seriously, check out how many of today’s empath experts have published even one “Skilled Empath Merge.” )

Stop Blaming Narcissists #4. Serenity Prayer Beats Analyzing Mind Games of Narcissists

Serenity prayer wisdom: It’s not just for alcoholics. Sure beats analyzing “mind games” of alleged narcissists. Or trying to win them over.

God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Also, of course, end optional relationships that annoy you. Minimize obligatory relationships that upset you.

That previous mind games link takes you to a Google search. 1 1/4 MILLION hits related to the Quixotic quest to analyze narcissists!

Sure this activity could entice highly intelligent people. So what? Don’t you have better uses for your intelligence?

Stop Blaming Narcissists #5. Some Energy Spirituality Sessions Might Help

Consider some personal sessions of Energy Spirituality. Depending on the growth area we pursue, I’ll use skills of READING, Energy HEALING, Empath Empowerment® Coaching, or even Enlightenment Coaching.

Thanks to these sessions, I’ve helped some clients to keep their jobs. Or keep their jobs until getting a better job, with a promotion and raise.

And I’ve helped some clients to fight for a friendship. Or to leave a marriage that no longer works.

Just last night, I was in session with Joe. He thanked me. To paraphrase:

Four years ago we did Soul Thrill Aura Research on my career. That gave me clarity.

Since then I went to graduate school. Now I’ve got credentials in that field.

And now I’ve started my first professional job. I love it.

All along the way you’ve helped me, one session at a time. You’ve helped me to fulfill this dream.

Fairly often, long-term Energy Spirituality clients tell me stories like this. Imagine, instead they could have been cataloging narcissists!

In Conclusion

Narcissist name calling won’t help you in the long run. Meanwhile, this article has given you five alternatives that just might serve you better.

Please, COMMENT away.

And share your stories.

In this post, I’ve told you some of mine. What are yours?

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  1. 1

    So what about the idea of “Protect yourself energetically from narcissists”?

    See Tips #2 and #3, above. See the whole blog post, actually. Today’s huge fear or narcissists in Collective Consciousness… is a lot of hooey.

  2. 2
    Rebecca says:

    This has been a fascinating discussion, Rose!

    Honestly, I wasn’t aware that there was such a movement on labeling people as narcissists; I suppose I just didn’t look for it (which is a testament to your teaching, by the way).

  3. 3
    Rebecca says:

    But, since we are on the topic…

    I work in an open office environment and happen to sit just across from a woman who does things that are quite distracting.

  4. 4
    Rebecca says:

    For example, when listening to music with headphones, she will sing, clap and dance around.

    Another example is reacting verbally to e-mails as she reads them.

  5. 5
    Rebecca says:

    If I had been subscribing to the Narcissism Spotting trend, I suppose I could just label her as a narcissist as if her actions are a means to attract attention.

  6. 6

    REBECCA, thank you for sharing your reaction to this blog post. (And maybe the other two in the series on narcissists.)

    I agree. Your co-worker is acting rudely. Perhaps you might figure out a way to solve this problem. Or, at least, attempt to solve it. Another option is to have an Energy Spirituality session with me. Since I’ve helped other clients in similar situations… to do much better, rather than the “just take it” approach.

  7. 7

    Since I know you quite well, REBECCA, I’m pretty sure you won’t mind if I make a further observation. Concerning your Comment #5:

    “If I had been subscribing to the Narcissism Spotting trend, I suppose I could just label her as a narcissist as if her actions are a means to attract attention.”

  8. 8

    Do you believe that calling somebody a show off is equal to calling people a narcissist?

    Granted, I am NOT a mental health professional. But I think, if you talked to one, you would learn that people with the psychiatric diagnosis “narcissist” do not have showing off as a significant part of the disorder. More like a happy coincidence. 😉

  9. 9

    Indirectly, then, you’re making the point that ANYONE can take ANY kind of insult and then claim, “You sure are a narcissist.”

    In essence, that’s the point of this entire series of three articles. So well done, REBECCA!

  10. 10
    Living on Earth says:

    Brilliant tips Rose!

    This part stood out to me the most: “Avoid becoming a victim of your own energy sensitivity. “

  11. 11
    Living on Earth says:

    At some point, I was deep into this kind of state.

    I could tell something different was going on but couldn’t figure out what or how to change it until I discovered you.

  12. 12
    Living on Earth says:

    Also, A-ha! I didn’t consciously think about it but yes it IS a form of hate speech!

    No wonder I reacted to it strongly (without really knowing why). That example of the bus driver is horrifying, among many others.

  13. 13
    Living on Earth says:

    At the end of the day though, it is a choice.

    Our speech and behavior is a choice of our own free will.

  14. 14
    Living on Earth says:

    Even when we are a victim of our own energy sensitivity. Or are not aware of the effects of the STUFF that we carry.

    We are still the ones responsible with how we choose to live.

  15. 15
    Living on Earth says:

    That’s why articles like this, clearly pointing out the truth with facts, are so important to spread now.

    Almost pleading with us to take back our self authority and discernment. And a much needed call for humanity to use their free will living in (human) objective reality.

  16. 16
    Living on Earth says:

    I so hope it sparks many A-ha’s to its readers.

    And I sure will be forwarding it to a few who, I think, are willing to hear it.

  17. 17

    LIVING ON EARTH, you put all this so beautifully.

    May this blog be a resource to help many of us take heart, and keep doing our reasonable best! You just gave me a lift, Dear You.

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