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Implicit Bias Hurts People. Say Something

Implicit Bias Hurts. Deep down, most of us feel like angels. Even if we don’t always manage to act like angels.

Implicit Bias Hurts People. But you can do something about it. Simply by speaking up as best you can, as I’ll describe in today’s article.

And gee, why would I discuss this topic? Can you guess? Yeah, because I’ve got some fresh-and-stinging Teaching Tales to share.

Probably you know from personal experience. Being on the receiving end of implicit bias… hurts.

Consequently, I’d like to open up a controversial topic: Have you dished out prejudice, due to implicit bias? And have you had to take it?

Specifically, what can you do when somebody reveals a prejudice against your kind?

First of All, What Is Implicit Bias?

Do you already know the term, Blog-Buddies? I’m guessing yes. Folks who care about deeper experience of our shared humanity… we tend to notice such things.

Simply put, implicit bias means having a subconscious prejudice against one or more groups of people. Basically, this causes “perfectly nice” people to act in ways that, on the receiving end, reads as prejudice. Plain as day!

Even though the perpetrators would never, ever call themselves “prejudiced.”

So Ironic, Right? Since Many Good People Would Say, “Not Guilty. Never Guilty.”

Sadly, implicit bias doesn’t just cause us to subconsciously erase the humanity in another person.  Unknowingly people can wind up expressing that prejudice in ways small and large. Expressing an “us and them” mentality long before it gets to the grotesque stage described in the front page story from today’s Washington Post:

  • Namely a call to “Kill N***” painted on a high school public space in North Carolina. (And speaking of irony, the space was called “Spirit” Rock.)
  • That hate speech was literally covered up — painted over. But not before some kids posted the image on a YouTube video. Inciting violence.
  • For details, click on this link to this unprosecuted hate crime. Yes, shamefully, in this hotbed of racial prejudice: Unprosecuted.
  • Of course, these days many folks in America — and elsewhere — are delving their own personal “Subconscious Garbage Cans.” (Why? See my theory at Comment 13, here.) And, in my view, this has a lot to do with the rise in hate crimes.
  • Unlike the previous example from the Post, inciting violence against people of color, guess what? This next example reported in the Post involved attacking Jews and gays, as well as African-Americans.

Seems to me, we can draw a straight line between today’s hate graffiti in the news and my two Teaching Tales. Why blog about them? In order to turn this hurtful topic into a free will issue.

Bringing up practical choices. Also, honestly facing the likely implications. Depending on whether or not we take action.

Here’s my question to you, Blog-Buddies? What can we do on the receiving end of everyday incidents that reveal prejudice, implicit bias, etc.?

Context for My Non-Newsworthy Tales about How Implicit Bias Hurts

Over the last couple of weeks, my husband and I went on a trip to Ireland. It was a group tour, and delightful.

  • Picture 23 enthusiastic Americans, experiencing the Cliffs of Moher on a gloriously sunny day. (It’s one of the wonders of the world, even in the rain.)
  • Or imagine us touring a working ranch in the country. When the eloquent farmer led us across his barn, all the cattle turned their heads to follow him with their eyes. Reminded me of great Renaissance paintings, like “The Adoration of the Magi.”
  • And we even got to see “The Book of Kells.” (Perhaps one of the few remaining places on earth where nobody’s allowed to take photos with their phones. Hahaha.)

Equally charming was our tour guide, Dick Daly. Deftly, he pulled our group together. Got all of us on our bus. Every time. Making sure that some timeless tourists were never left behind. All the while, treating everybody with kindness and respect.

And, mostly, it was an equally pleasant crowd. Never did I hear an argument in group situations, for instance. In fact, the only argument I witnessed at all was a one-on-one. An argument that, like it or not, was begun by me.

The 3 Specialties Technique, Introduced Here. In This Very Blog Post!

Blog-Buddies, how do you give a quick description of people? By their looks? Their color? Their ethnicity? Or their work? Their what????

To bring alive the incidents that follow, I’ll share my favorite way to “peg” people. Without having to stereotype them.

Probably you know that I don’t recommend doing aura reading in everyday life. (Better to live like a human, using bland Stage 1 Energetic Literacy. Emphasizing human reality.) However, here’s a Deeper Perception way, right on the surface of what folks say and do, to give you a sense of what different people are like.

As you may know from this book jammed with easy ways to co-create with God, we humans have three main areas of specialty:

  1. Love. Meaning, the ability to care about people. Sometimes also (though not always) caring about people who are not in one’s family or tribe.
  2. Light. Could mean connection to the Divine. Alternatively, could show through intellectual learning. Or else light could shine gloriously in the form of perceptiveness about people. All of these being different ways that the light of truth can light us up.
  3. Power. Such as taking forceful, effective action. Or, perhaps, simply preferring the company of other power players. And for some, caring greatly about people’s social status.

In the tales that follow, I might describe somebody as specializing in one, two, or all three. (Funnily enough, in personal sessions with me, you may have noticed. Sometimes I might help you to use more love. Or light. Or power. Because that’s the Energy Spirituality perspective on personal growth.)

What else, as we get started in these two Teaching Tales? Just my usual disclaimer: If inaccuracies creep in, I apologize. All I can do is report to the best of my ability.

Implicit Bias Hurts Incident #1. Looking “Alike”

Now, let me introduce you to Cindy. She’s a pleasant woman, enjoying retirement and family. Friends might describe her as “All heart.” I’d describe her as specializing beautifully in love, just love.

In college, Cindy majored in English lit. Early in our trip, we discovered that we were the only two in our group who’d done weird things like read “Ulysses.” Enthusiastic fans of Yeats and Joyce, both of us, guilty as charged!

Imagine my surprise, halfway through Day 3 of our trip, to overhear this comment from Cindy. (At the time, we were clambering into our tour bus. And, as usual, Cindy talked in a fairly loud voice.)

“Rose looks just like Harriet. Have you noticed?

“It’s the funniest thing. I can’t figure out how they look alike, exactly. I just know that they do.”

Burn!

From my perspective, the answer was clear:

  1. Harriet’s taller than me.
  2. Although we’re both “white” people, our coloring is completely different.
  3. Facially, we have zero resemblance. (As you may know, I bring the perspective of a face reader. Think: Harriet’s Down-Angled Eyes compared to my Up-Angled Eyes. And her Blarney Lips contrasting with my Outspoken Lips, etc.)
  4. To begin a long list — the rest of which I’ll spare you — of how different we sounded… Harriet speaks with a strong New York accent. By contrast, here’s a sample of how I sound.
  5. As for specialties, Harriet is retired from a fabulous career. Understandably, since she specializes in power. By contrast, this Enlightenment Coach has learned how to specialize in both love and light and power.

In short, exactly how did we look so very alike? Easy. Because we’re Jewish.

Yes, our tour included exactly two Jewish women. (Far as I know.) Harriet and me. And I’d describe us both as having a strong Jewish vibe.

True, slightly related, story: On one of my tours, a woman took me aside after one of my lectures for the Inner Potential Centre. “Would you please act less Jewish? That way you’ll be more successful here in England.”

Teaching Tale Part: How Did I Handle This?

Reacting to Cindy’s comment? Probably, that’s predictable. Shock. And a deep kind of hurt.

Note: Out of all the words at my blog, this is the first time when I’ll use the term “anti-Semitic.”

Coincidence? Out of 2,725 posts and 54,275 comments? Never before using the term “anti-Semitic”?

Sure. In life, I don’t look for this. Nor do I find it.

Only, in this case, how could I not draw that conclusion? The question was, what was I going to do about Cindy’s inadvertently hurtful words?

Mostly, for the next couple of days I enjoyed my trip, but in the background her word bothered me. Then I found an opportunity to pull Cindy aside, prefacing my comments by saying: “I like you, Cindy. I like you a lot.”

Then I repeated what I’d heard her say. Plus, my conclusion: “All you saw was that both Harriet and I are Jewish. I want you to know, that hurt my feelings a lot.”

Cindy spoke — and looked – totally cluelessly. That’s when I yelled somewhat. I told her, that comment hurt my feelings, whether she meant it as anti-Semitic or not. “Ever hear of implicit bias? You might want to look it up.”

Somehow Cindy managed to apologize. Although her face still looked totally blank — even victimey. Poor Cindy! Tactfully she offered a non-apology. Like, “I’m sorry that you didn’t like what I said. Although I didn’t say anything wrong.”

Consequences, of Course

Who knows if Cindy will ever think about this a little bit more?

Anyway, all I know for sure is the social consequence. Cindy studiously avoided making eye contact, or standing anywhere near me, for last four days of our tour. Also, suddenly, her friend Hilary stopped talking to me, too.

It was a shame. Personally, I was ready to move on and make typical tour-trip small talk. Having spoken up, I could live with myself. And I certainly could live with Cindy.

I still liked her. And Hilary.

On the last night, I marched over to Cindy and found a low-key way to speak to her. And she small-talked me right back.

Btw, did I ever tell Harriet that Cindy decided we two Jewish women looked alike? Nope. Why stir up trouble?

I did, however, tell this story to my husband Mitch. Waiting until we were hanging out at the airport, getting ready to fly back home. And that’s when Mitch told me about…

Implicit Bias Hurts Incident #2. Swapping Names

As noted previously, Cindy had a friend on the trip, Hilary.

Wonderful Hilary, specializing in love, light, and power; brilliant, talented, adventurous, and kind; imho a total dazzler. For those first five days of the trip, we talked a lot.

Only now, at the airport, Mitch told me this about Hilary. (My Hilary! One of my standout favorites of the whole trip!)

“I’m not that surprised about Cindy. Rose, these things happen. Look, her friend Hilary called me “Mickey” for the entire trip. After a couple of times, I stopped trying to correct her.

Burn!

And who was Mickey? The other Jewish guy on our tour, of course. Possibly, a third man on the trip was Jewish, but he didn’t blast out a strong Jewish vibe. (Many of us don’t. One reason why so many Jewish entertainers seemed “perfectly normal.“)

Anyway, I’ll spare you the rather extensive list of all the ways that Mickey and Mitch are different. Except for summarizing what showed using the 3 Specialties Technique:

  • Mickey specializes in Light. (Of the intellectual kind.)
  • Mitch, thank God, specializes in Love, Light, and Power.

Oh yes, did I mention? Throughout most of the 9-day trip, both Mitch and Mickey… and every single person on the tour… was wearing a great big name tag.

Hey, I guess to some people all Jews seem identical. And no mere name tag is ever going to change that.

Teaching Tale Part: How Did He Handle This?

Hey, I’ve already told you.

See, I’ve known Mitch since he was 22 and I was 29. Amazingly, it’s now 52 years later. In many ways we’ve grown and changed. While in some other equally good ways, we haven’t.

One example of what hasn’t changed? During conflicts, Mitch quickly assesses who is ready to listen. What if his change-dar decrees “Nope”? Then Mitch won’t waste his breath.

While me? Look, you know me, Blog-Buddies. I’m a teacher. A spiritual teacher, in fact. What better use for my breath can there be… than reaching out for a little bit of honest conversation?

And so, whenever I feel there is any chance of growing closer together (rather than increasingly distant), I’ll leap in.

Leap in all the way: Hope blazing. Power at the ready. Shining my light. Eager for learning all around!

Consequences, of Course

Hilary didn’t get that particular chance to grow.

Although my heart tells me that this courageous woman would have relished the chance. Even welcomed it.

I think she was big enough to have respected Mitch more (not less) for raising the possibility of implicit bias.

Where Do We Go from Here, Problem Solving around Implicit Bias?

Next post? That’s already queued up. We’ll wrap up our longest-ever series of blog posts. Most recent of the set gives you thought-provoking quiz answers about Holistic Healing, Energy Healing.

Following that, at some point, I’d like to devote another article to implicit bias. But from this perspective: How can we move beyond doing it to others?

Could be, I might not be the only Blog-Buddy here who’s had some pretty cringe-worthy moments. Blanking out through that subconscious bias. Consequently, hurting people’s feelings. If you know what I’m talking about, I’ll bet that you also would really, really like to prevent ever doing that again.

Here at this post, I welcome your comments about this new topic. Have people hurt your feelings because of their subconscious prejudice?

Hey, is it possible that “implicit bias” sounds so clean and academic… that you’ve never connected it to stinky, gritty, gunky acts of prejudice? (Or, ultimately, to hate speech, as in the two newspaper articles I linked to earlier in this article!)

When people mixed you up with others “just like you,” what then? Did you problem solve by acting more like Mitch or like me? Or by doing something entirely different?

And do you agree with me? That it’s important for to call people out in such situations?

Look, we’re living in the Age of Awakening. (Even if everybody doesn’t know that big-deal fact yet.) Could be, we’re just too awake inwardly now… Too awake to perpetuate traditional blank-spots in acknowledging another person’s humanity.

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  1. 1
    Jnana says:

    Really like this post. It is something I’ve been giving a lot of thought to.

    I’m ready to stop being on the receiving end of this. And a giver as well.

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    Tricia says:

    Rose, I’m so sorry that happened. That collection of comments were cruel! And it was heartbreaking that neither woman demonstrated an interest or willingness to learn.

    I’m impressed and grateful that you confronted Cindy’s implicit bias head on and also let her know how it made you feel. That’s the only way we can hope for change. ALSO you offered her the opportunity to stay in a relationship with you despite the hurt she caused. That’s admirable.

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    Tricia says:

    Also, who would ever have the gall or desire to ask someone to act “less Jewish”?!!!!!!!!

    I ADORE the jewishness of my friends and Rose, if I knew you in real life, I would adore that quality in you too!

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    JNANA, thanks so much.

    Are you saying, in part, that you’re willing to speak up for yourself, more than you’ve done? I’m curious. That sounds important, and wonderful.

  5. 5

    TRICIA, sweet comments from you!

    In that second paragraph of your Comment #2, you make me seem suave. While, in reality, I felt socially clumsy. I was just doing the best I could, because that was all I had available.

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    As for your lovely Comment #3, TRICIA, that British woman really meant well.

    I’m pretty sure, anyway. It’s an art, deconstructing the (usually inspiring) politeness I’ve encountered from the other side of “the pond.” Typically, it turns my heart to mush.

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    Besides,TRICIA, seems to me that knowing each other through this blog is pretty real life for social media.

    And maybe some day, in addition, we’ll be together in a session or an in-person workshop. I’d like that.

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    Will says:

    Great topic, Rose, thank you for sharing this story.

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    Thanks, WILL. Btw, I emailed Cheryl, Harriet, Mickey, and Hilary an invitation to read and comment. If they follow up, I might learn something. Together, all of us here might learn something.

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    Jnana says:

    This blog post made me bristle so! That’s what you get when you keep quiet for so long.

    I’m ready to speak up now but things have improved a lot over here so not many opportunities to do so.

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    Ethan says:

    Thank you Rose for sharing your personal stories with us to help us learn. I am so glad you had a great time otherwise on your trip , and isn’t that all we can hope for? To learn something new each day?

    I am curious if Cheryl will follow up-or any of them.

  12. 12

    JNANA, I’m just thrilled to read that Comment #10 from you. For so many years we’ve done sessions, but I had no idea this sort of behavior toward you had ever been a problem.

    You’ve helped me to understand you better!

  13. 13

    Even if this problem seldom arises now, I’d recommend something for you — and also for other Blog-Buddies who’ve suffered from discrimination in one form or another:

    Jot down a list of incidents, just a sentence for each. Bring that to our next session. And, if you can manage it without too much trouble, on that day email me photos of one or more people involved in these squirmy-wormy incidents.

  14. 14

    ETHAN, I just love that first paragraph in your Comment #11. And I couldn’t agree more about enjoying the good times, while being willing to learn when appropriate, too.

    And yes, you’re onto me. Although it’s my personal blog, when I devote an article to any personal experience, it’s meant as a Teaching Tale.

  15. 15
    Louise Jones says:

    I have a son with Asperger’s and sometimes people I’m with have used the word “retarded” or a similar word in explaining a situation with some other person or incident.

  16. 16
    Louise Jones says:

    I find it hurtful that they can flippantly use that word when in real life they may have not had anyone in their life with mental disabilities.

  17. 17
    Louise Jones says:

    I have a couple of times called them out on saying that word, but often have not, thinking to myself they didn’t realize what they were saying.

    I want to be bolder and call them out and do it in a way that will make them think and not insult them. like do it in a kind but firm way. And next time this happens I intend to say something.

  18. 18

    LOUISE, it’s so good to see you writing here at the blog… even though the topic has been a painful one for you.

    You know, a problem like this can be a very helpful growth area to bring up in a personal session of Energy Spirituality. While we’re here at the blog, what can I say in response to what you’ve just shared?

  19. 19

    The situation you describe in your Comment #15 is very common, you know. Like, you’re talking to Joe and he doesn’t know that your family includes somebody who is:

    On the autism spectrum * developmentally delayed * trying to avoid going back into a psychiatric hospital * a Democrat * a Republican * Asian * Black * biracial * Muslim * Buddhist * an atheist * a lapsed Catholic * obese * has grey hair * just filed for bankruptcy * struggles as an alcoholic * struggles with anorexia * you-name-it

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    When Joe shows his prejudice or casually uses a slur, it’s great that you plan to speak up.

    In addition, know that you have the following choice in how you interpret his words:

  21. 21

    Interpret what happens as “hurtful”

    Or interpret it as “educational.”

  22. 22

    Might I recommend? Choose the educational option. Because Joe has just displayed his ignorance.

    Ignorance is different from deliberately trying to hurt you — which would have been hurtful. When making fun of a third person, he didn’t know that you lived with a similar situation up close and personal. Yep, he showed ignorance.

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    And who would be more motivated to speak up and educate a person like Joe… than you?

    By contrast, what if you don’t speak up? Well, you know how lousy that feels. Note: What, if you, LOUISE, or other Blog-Buddies, were raised in a religion where you were supposed to let people trample all over you. Supposed do nothing. Taught that, for instance, Jesus wanted you to suffer sweetly, earning sainthood points???? Phooey on that-ey!

  24. 24

    What’s so much more fun? (And, according to this Enlightenment Coach, more helpful for spiritual evolution!) Educate him with a little chunk of truth about objective reality. Thus, you can turn his insult into a teachable moment.

    Maybe saying saying something as simple as, “Today, most Americans have graduated from using the term ‘retarded.’ Instead, people use the term’developmentally delayed.'”

  25. 25

    You might add the objective reality fact, “I found what you said quite offensive since somebody in my family has a disability.

    And conclude, “In the future, please avoid using insulting language like this.”

  26. 26

    So there’s the educational opportunity for Joe.

    Meanwhile your educational opportunity is just beginning. Because however he reacts, it will be informative.

  27. 27

    Please, interpret his reaction as “informative” and not “hurtful.”

    And don’t interpret his reaction as “about me.” Since his reaction is clearly about him.

  28. 28

    In such cases, LOUISE, you’ll find there are really two main kinds of people.

    VERSION 1. Joe might respond as you or I would: He chooses to learn. His desire to grow as a human being is stronger than his pride or his need to always be right. In which case, he might well apologize. Plus, he might resolve to do better in the future.

  29. 29

    VERSION 2. Joe might dig in his heels and scowl at you. Then really let fly a string of insults! This time, purposely attempting to hurt your feelings.

    Or he might “treat you” to a larger sample of his beliefs. (Euwwww!)

  30. 30

    So this time he flunks the test. But maybe — in a few days or decades, when he’s ready to grow just a bit — he might do better with the next person.

    It doesn’t have to be your problem, of course, if Joe responds badly. Consider it informative.

  31. 31

    Here’s some recommended reading for any of you who have ever taken personally a central fact of spiritual life:

    People act according to their level of consciousness.
    Thus, different people have different preferences about rate of personal growth. (And also their pace of spiritual evolution.)

  32. 32
  33. 33
    Jean says:

    Thank you Rose for sharing. Also thanks for the link to the great Obsidian World post.

    Just re-read it and found new support for living my own human life as well as interacting with others….with renewed respect/awareness that everyone chooses their own preferences around rates of personal growth.

  34. 34
    Louise Jones says:

    How about “turn the other cheek”,

    My years in evangelical christianity tried to teach us we weren’t worthy, glad to have ditched that.

  35. 35

    JEAN, you’re so welcome. From what I’ve learned so far, Earth School is quite opposite to our more normal lives as angels. Because there’s not just one heaven but innumerable heavens.

    Who dwells in each one? Souls at a similar level of evolution. Perhaps having followed a particular religion, or even gone to one particular church within that religion. (Or having some other defining characteristic.)

  36. 36

    I think that’s one reason why deep down we have such strong expectations, during this human life, that — as usual — every single person we meet is a Heaven Buddy:

    Somebody as evolved as we are. Somebody with a similar degree of purity, love, light, ethical behavior, etc.

  37. 37

    Once we accept, “Hello, this is Earth School,” we can lose a load of frustration.

  38. 38
    Louise says:

    But thinking of it as educating someone that has said something insulting with a “chunk of truth” is actually quite freeing.

  39. 39

    LOUISE, I’m loving these comments from you. That #34 is inspiring a future blog post.

    As for your Comment #38, that’s so true. To put what you said in a broader context, using our POWER is freeing. Power simply means saying things and doing things to get more of what we want.

  40. 40

    Yes, power can be used by good people like us, not just bullies.

    As for what we loathe about bullies? On reflection, their power isn’t the icky part, but rather all the other jazz they’re doing.(Showing up In their actions. In their auras, too.)

  41. 41
    Jamie Isaacs says:

    I’m sorry Rose, I’m jewish obviously, so I feel I can comment.
    This is bizarre to me that someone who is enlightened would stew for two days
    have their feelings so hurt and then confront and yell at the “perpetrator” causing
    a whole thing. You don’t know why she thought you looked similar and so what if
    you both looked Jewish, be a proud Jew. Besides what does that even mean there are
    many very attractive Jews and many Jews that just look like people. I’m 100% proud of my
    Jewish heritage, I certainly would start a fight over a likely innocent comment.
    Im sure you won’t post this but I think your actions were not those of someone who claims to be enlightened although I’m sorry
    you were so hurt I find you being so offended at looking Jewish to be insulting. So what!!

  42. 42

    Welcome to my blog, JAMIE ISAACS. How common it is for the occasional lurker to write a first comment here, dump a load of anger, and then never come back again. Since this is my personal blog, I reserve the right to delete comments I find offensive. But I’ll let this one through because I see an educational point to be made, and this is — above all — an educational blog.

    As a professional face reader, I have quite a bit of perspective on “Looking Jewish” etc. Because I see faces, not stereotypes. For as long as it is important to you, by all means, JAMIE, continue to carry your concept of “Looking Jewish.”

  43. 43

    However, I don’t. Evidently this difference in our perspectives caused you to miss out one of the most important points in my article. Ethically, I don’t have the right to give you a link to a photo of Harriet. But if you were to see our two faces — or physiques — or even ways of dressing, guess what?

    You wouldn’t find similarities. Unless, of course, it’s a “thing” to you, “Looking Jewish.” So you superimpose it upon life situations where it doesn’t otherwise exist.

  44. 44

    Actually, that obsolete “Looking Jewish” idea is why I found Cindy’s comment so shockingly bigoted.

    Had Harriet and I looked alike, I assure you, I could have expertly found all the points of resemblance. Once again, I’m a professional face reader. For example, I love doing face readings for identical twins, showing them how they look similar and how they look different. (And what this reveals about personal style.) It’s liberating for them.

  45. 45

    Even Cindy couldn’t, actually. She couldn’t find a single way that Harriet and I looked alike, physically.

    That’s why she complained to Hilary that we two looked alike “only she couldn’t figure out how.”

  46. 46

    Here’s a link to one of many articles you can find that debunk the myth of looking Jewish.

    According to Sharrona Pearl, the author of this well-researched article, yes, “looking Jewish” is a myth. She notes that just two categories of people still insist on seeing people who “Look Jewish” — certain Jews who have a stake in looking different from non-Jews and anti-Semites.

  47. 47
    Jamie Isaacs says:

    thank you for posting my comment, i am impressed, but in response I am not in the least bit angry
    as a matter of fact that’s the point, I’m surprised by your angry/hurt reaction.
    Didn’t I read somewhere you saying what other people think of you is none of your business.
    Does that come with qualifications? I think it’s a teaching point in looking inward at our own
    prejudices I doubt that many of us are free from them.
    thank you for the articles,. and thanks again for posting my comment.

  48. 48

    JAMIE, how very wonderful and special you must be. For instance to go onto this stranger’s blog and gift me with your “teaching point.”

    Also, how generous of you to quote something from Terry Cole-Whittaker and attribute it to me. Evidently you’re a real expert on my work.

  49. 49

    I could go through your Comments #41 and 47 point by point and dispel one wrongheaded idea after another. Not that I’ll waste my time doing that.

    Suffice it to say, if you weren’t angry and self-righteous while commenting today at my blog, you sure could have fooled me! And maybe, just maybe, beneath the sugar-coating around your words, maybe you also managed to fool yourself.

  50. 50
    Athena says:

    Hello Jamie, one being in enlightenment does not mean human emotions are stripped away or they are holier than thou. What one does with those feelings is what matters.

    Alot of people especially women would rather get upset and create tension with the person than addressing what is actually bothering them. I especially love that Rose did not discuss the situation with her husband until she addressed it.

  51. 51

    ATHENA, thanks.

    And in your first paragraph you communicated powerful truths about Enlightenment and the importance of free will.

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