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Seven Reasons Why SKILLED Empaths Need Not Fear Narcissists

Don't let the word "Narcissist" confuse you. Nor the word "Empath."

Don’t let the word “Narcissist” confuse you. Nor the word “Empath.”

A recent conversation really opened my eyes to how much some unskilled empaths have suffered. My Highly, Highly Sensitive fellow empaths, not-yet-skilled… ouch!

This conversation took place on Facebook at the Empath Empowerment® Skills Group. Based on that, I would like to share some ideas related to handling difficult people, whether narcissists or not.

First a few definitions will be necessary, so it’s clear that we mean the same things when using certain terms.

  • An empath is someone with a gift for directly experiencing what it is like to be other people. Empaths are not necessarily people who feel other people’s feelings.
  • Unskilled empaths suffer because, unless the empath actively gains skills to turn the empath gift(s) OFF, there will be suffering, confusion, and loads of other relationship problems. It can be hard to use common sense about whether a relationship is helpful for you or not.
  • Energetically, the kind of problem empaths get is called “Imported STUFF.” In the field of Rosetree Energy Spirituality (RES), there are 14 other kinds of STUFF, not just what causes empaths to suffer.
  • Imported STUFF complicates ALL of an empath’s relationships, whether we know about this subconscious-level problem or not, also whether we consciously know that we are empaths or not.

Compassion Is Definitely Needed

Compassion needs to be part of the conversation because suffering hurts. Whatever the cause of that distress, whichever personalities are involved, sometimes relationships are really, really hard here at Earth School.

With narcissists, why fling when you could fix? Part 7 of 7 in our series on protecting yourself.

Learn about better ways to protect yourself from narcissists than name calling

Learn about better ways to protect yourself from narcissists than name calling

Phew! Today’s article finally concludes our series on protecting yourself from difficult people, a.k.a. narcissists, draining people, toxic personalities, energy vampires, psychic vampires, or just plain “somebody difficult.” The series began here, and includes seven posts from me plus a guest post.

Previously I gave you a small experiment, and there’s still time to do it before moving into today’s post. If you missed that Narcissist Quiz, why not take the three minutes? Go straight to Protect Yourself Energetically from Narcissists, Part 6 of 7. Take that short experimental quiz, and then let’s get going.

That quiz emphasized the effects on YOU, labeling somebody as a narcissist.

What our Narcissist Quiz comments showed

As our conversation about narcissists heats up… a guest post by ZELDA

When a narcissist is in your life, what's the best way to respond?

When a narcissist is in your life, what’s the best way to respond?

To join in this thread, may I recommend that you read the previous post: Protect Yourself Energetically from Narcissists, Part 6 of 7

And now, here come words of experience and wisdom from Blog-Buddy ZELDA.

Not crazy about discussing narcissism

Rose, I’m curious to see what the next post on narcissists will be. I admit that this kind of post isn’t my favorite, for a variety of reasons.

It brings to mind the awful experiences I’ve had dealing with the narcissists in my family, not something I relish. I’ve had the unfortunate experience of being related to a few. I’m not in contact with them now — out of a sense of self-preservation.

It was quite challenging for me to deal with these particular people.

In these kinds of conversations about psychological labels and how useful they are, I don’t find it terribly helpful when people go to that place of some version of, “Well, everyone is narcissistic…we’re all like this.”

Yet the label “Narcissist” can be helpful, when warranted

Protect Yourself Energetically from Draining People, Part 5

Worried about a draining personality?

Worried about a draining personality?

Today we continue our series on protecting yourself from difficult people, a.k.a. draining people, toxic personalities, energy vampires, psychic vampires, narcissists, or just plain “somebody difficult.”

Why do new fears emerge now about contamination by somebody else’s energies? When you live has a lot to do with it. We’re still getting used to the new Age of Aquarius, whose defining characteristic is this: All humans can notice energy more easily.

You may not go to the extreme of fearing a “draining person” or scaring yourself with similar names that grew popular in the decades leading up to this Age of Aquarius.  Yet you still may feel uncomfortable around certain people’s energies.

What can you do about that? How can you best protect yourself?

In today’s Part 5 of a 6-part series that began here, we’re going to take a especially practical approach, by way of a teaching tale.

GLADYS is a sweet client who has had many sessions with me off and on over the past several years. She’s spunky, smart, and a survivor who is committed to personal growth. Besides that, she’s caring, with beautiful integrity and deep Christian values. It doesn’t hurt that she’s very pretty, too.

Yet she has made choices that recently resulted in big drama with a “Draining Person.”

The perils of having a pure heart

 

Hope so. Hope you are willing to see the ugliness. Especially if you have a pure heart.

If not willing, you risk finding bogus ugliness in others and yourself.

Seeking beauty is a great lifestyle. But seeking ONLY beauty makes a lousy requirement for life, a wretched way of attempting to live one’s ideals.

Arlene, the Groovy Psychiatrist, on Narcissists and More

 

Yes, Blog-Buddies, here is the rest of my interview about the differences and similarities between Energy Spirituality and traditional methods of therapy, including psychiatry.

Many thanks to Arlene, the Groovy Psychiatrist, and to Gladys, the Blog-Buddy who volunteered to transcribe our interview.

Gray Slime, Energy Hypochondria, and Victimhood

 

“Gray slime” is, of course, my term for the creeping fears of humanity. We live in interesting times. These are times that offer us fabulous opportunities for spiritual evolution.

  • Dealing with problems, will you choose to summon your human common sense, then evaluate situations realistically? Will you do your human part to solve the problems?
  • As for your spiritual life, and your goals as a world server, are you doing your comfortable best in that department as well?

Apology, Victims, Responsibility, Kindness

 

Above all, the purpose of this blog is education. Deeper Perception techniques, energetic literacy of all kinds, support self-authority for each of us. Quite recently this self-authority has been tested around issues of what constitutes an apology.

When is it appropriate to apologize?

How gracious does one need to be?

Who is responsible when somebody feels insulted or names you as the big, monstrous “insulter”?

Another view of Dark Souls, Sarah Strudwick’s Guest Post

 

Blog-Buddies, sometimes a comment sent to this blog is so superb and detailed, it really deserves to become a post of its own. Originally Sarah’s words (and the first comment) below were submitted  in response to my post from today about “Why I don’t believe in Dark Souls.”

Maybe you’ll agree with Sarah. Maybe you’ll want to buy her new book, to learn more about the thoughtful and detailed approach that she brings to this topic. Here is some of her perspective about narcissists, being an empath, and more, with a bit of formatting and headings added.

Why I do not believe in "Dark Souls"

 

Sure, I’ve heard the names just as you have: Dark souls. Darksiders. Psychic vampires. Energy vampires. Such a long list.

But do I believe in them? No. Here I’d like to offer my reasons, just in case they help you to shape your own views.

Recently at Deeper Perception Made Practical, my colleague Anna Conlan guest posted on ethics. She said explicitly that she does not believe in dark souls. That has implications for how she will treat her clients, her friends, herself. Every belief set has implications for a person’s quality of life. So it’s worthwhile to consider your own choice of beliefs on this topic, whether or not you wind up agreeing with Anna and me.